About Wedding Traditions & Meanings

Monday, January 22, 2018

Irish wedding blessings


Wedding blessings are found across many cultures. In the Irish culture, traditionally the father of the bride gives his blessing to the groom and the marital union. However, for the most part, Irish people don’t care for much formality and there isn’t a specific method for giving a blessing. Sometimes blessings are shared privately with the couple together, other times they may be shared with only the bride or just the groom. Other times they are offered publicly, and in some cases, they are used as a wedding toast such as, “May your neighbors respect you, may trouble neglect you, may the angels protect you, and may heaven accept you.”



Irish Wedding Prayer
May God be with you and bless you.
May you see your children's children.
May you be poor in misfortunes
and rich in blessings.
May you know nothing but happiness
from this day forward.



Irish wedding blessing poem
“May the Road Rise Up to Meet You” is a popular Irish wedding blessing poem which some historians attribute to Ireland's Saint Patrick. It’s origins come from the Gaelic phrase "Go n-éiri an bóthar leat," which translates to mean ‘may your journey be successful.’ However, the origins of this popular wedding blessing is really considered unknown and today is often presented in song.

“May the Road Rise Up To Meet You”

May the road rise to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
the rain fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again,
may God hold you in the palm of his hand.

Some couples choose to use a wedding blessing on their wedding invitations. And in the same way many couples write their own vows, writing your own poetic wedding prayers offers a similar opportunity, or have others in the wedding party write out blessings as gifts to the bride and groom. The result is a unique wedding ceremony rich in personal meaning that creates a new level of special memories that will be talked about for years to come and may even become a new tradition which blesses your family in the years ahead.
 
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Friday, January 19, 2018

Wedding veil styles of the 1900s

While some look at the bridal veil as a simple fashion accessory, choosing the right veil takes some consideration. For instance, if you’re choosing a beach venue, you certainly don’t want a long veil dragging behind you to get snagged on the boardwalk when you make your dramatic entrance. Along these lines, you also need to consider the hairstyle you have planned, and you want it to complement your dress.



In the past I’ve written about the history of the bridal veil from ancient times that includes the Greeks thinking the veil protected from evil spirits, and how in Medieval times brides sported the veil as a symbol of purity. Today some brides choose to go without the veil, and modern brides aren’t thinking about evil spirits or even what the veil represents, unless they are trying to find a bridal veil to fit the theme of their wedding.

Today, we’ll look at the history of bridal veil styles from the 1900s. While I mention trends of the day, remember that many brides still chose to go with a more traditional veil rather than follow a craze when it came to their wedding day.


Great Gatsby wedding fashion.
1920s

For those planning a Roaring 20s or Great Gatsby themed wedding, the bridal fashion of the time was most often designed using silk and decorated with flowers and leaves matching the flowers in the bridal bouquet. Cloche veils were very popular. Other common styles included headband veils or veils crafted from lace or silk worn over the head and shoulders.


1930s
In the 30s, brides wore tight fitting dresses and loosely-fitting veils which hung over their heads.


1940s

During the war years, rationing played a role even when it came to weddings. It wasn’t unusual for the same wedding dress and veil to make the rounds − worn by multiple brides. In the post-war years of the 1940s, small, birdcage veils became popular, which is currently a reemerging fashion trend.


1950s

In the 1950s, traditional veils gave way to the tight-fitting skullcap veil.

1960s

Bridal veils took on a more modern flare in the 60s. They tended to be shorter, some shoulder length or perhaps reaching about midway down the back. Instead of lace, they were often fashioned out of netting and fastened to a decorative headpiece secured with a comb.

60s netting fastened to decorative headpiece secured with a comb

1970s


The late 60s and into to 70s wedding veils returned to longer fluid styles with a bohemian air that mimicked the flower-power hippy look of the day.

1980s

For readers who were alive at the time, things were big in the 80s. We had big hair, and big shoulder-pads. Princess Diana and Prince Charles were married and the event was a media sensation with more than 750 million people from around the world tuning in to the first televised royal wedding. Her extravagant silk-and-taffeta gown was full, lavish, and what I’d call cinderellaish. But her veil! It was 40 feet long! I’ll never forget watching her and feeling that fairytales do come true as she entered St. Paul’s cathedral. I don’t know if she was the single catalyst for long veils, but it certainly was the trend in the 80s.
1988

1990s

In the 90s, brides wore big puffy sleeves and dresses decorated with heavy bead work. It was also a time when some brides decided to go without the veil altogether and in its place they wore a headpiece or hat.

The wedding veil tradition started back when veils were a commonplace fashion accessory. Today, wearing veils may be “old fashioned” but many brides feel it a necessary adornment on that special day. From among the trends of the past, if you look, you may you find inspiration to create your own look on your wedding day.

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Thursday, January 18, 2018

Bride’s Pie: The Savory Wedding Dish That Came Before the Modern Wedding Cake

(Updated October 2026)

I've written about the evolution of the wedding cake tradition and how it reaches all the way back to ancient Rome, when a loaf of hearty bread was broken over the bride's head.

But the story of wedding cake isn't a straight line from Roman bread to the tiered cakes we know today.

Along the way, weddings featured some rather interesting dishes—including Bride's Pie.

If you're imagining a sweet dessert covered in frosting, think again.

Bride's Pie was a savory wedding dish, and its history gives us another glimpse into how wedding food and wedding traditions have changed over the centuries.


Bride's Pie


17th Century Wedding Cake

Bride's Pie was a savory pie associated with weddings and wedding celebrations. Unlike today's wedding cake, it wasn't necessarily a dessert. Historical recipes could contain a rather remarkable assortment of meats, seafood, fruits, nuts, spices, and other ingredients.

And before we look at one of those recipes, there's something important to keep in mind. People in earlier centuries cooked differently from the way we do today. They used more of the animal, preserved foods in different ways, and combined ingredients that might seem unusual to modern diners.

In other words, don't read an old Bride's Pie recipe expecting to find something resembling today's chicken pot pie.

You may be in for a surprise. 


Medieval Kitchen
Medieval Kitchen

One of the oldest surviving printed recipes I found for a Bride Pye appears in The Accomplisht Cook, a cookbook first published in 1660 by Robert May.

That puts this particular recipe in the 17th century, during the Historical Age, which falls within the Early Modern period in European history.

The cookbook's language is also very different from modern English, and some of the ingredients and culinary terms require a little explanation.

Here's the recipe:

To make an extraordinary Pie, or a Bride Pye of several Compounds, being several distinct Pies on one bottom. Provide cock-stones and combs, or lamb-stones, and sweet-breads of veal, a little set in hot water and cut to pieces; also two or three ox-pallats blanch’t and slic’t, a pint of oysters, slic’t dates, a handful of pine kernels, a little quantity of broom buds, pickles, some fine interlarded bacon slic’t; nine or ten chestnuts rosted and blanch season them with salt, nutmeg, and some large mace, and close it up with some butter. For the caudle, beat up some butter, with three yolks of eggs, some white or claret wine, the juyce of a lemon or two; cut up the lid, and pour on the lear, shaking it well together; then lay on the meat, slic’t lemon, and pickled barberries, and cover it again, let these ingredients be put in the moddle or scollops of the Pye.

Now let's translate some of that into modern terms.


Medieval wedding cake was known as Bride's Pie
 

Bride’s Pie Recipe 1685

To make an extraordinary Pie, or a Bride Pye of several Compounds, being several distinct Pies on one bottom. Provide cock-stones and combs, or lamb-stones, and sweet-breads of veal, a little set in hot water and cut to pieces; also two or three ox-pallats blanch’t and slic’t, a pint of oysters, slic’t dates, a handful of pine kernels, a little quantity of broom buds, pickles, some fine interlarded bacon slic’t; nine or ten chestnuts rosted and blanch season them with salt, nutmeg, and some large mace, and close it up with some butter. For the caudle, beat up some butter, with three yolks of eggs, some white or claret wine, the juyce of a lemon or two; cut up the lid, and pour on the lear, shaking it well together; then lay on the meat, slic’t lemon, and pickled barberries, and cover it again, let these ingredients be put in the moddle or scollops of the Pye.

 

What's in a Bride's Pie?

The ingredients in this particular recipe certainly aren't what most of us would expect to find in a wedding dessert.

It calls for:

  • Veal sweetbreads
  • Cock's stones and combs
  • Ox palate
  • Oysters
  • Dates
  • Pine kernels
  • Broom buds
  • Pickles
  • Bacon
  • Chestnuts
  • Eggs
  • Wine
  • Lemon
  • Barberries
  • Butter
  • Nutmeg and mace

Some of those terms need explaining.

Sweetbreads aren't bread at all. The term refers to certain organ meats, traditionally the thymus or pancreas of an animal.

Cock's stones refers to the testicles of a rooster.

Cock's combs are the fleshy crest on top of a rooster's head.

Ox palate is the roof of the animal's mouth.

And yes, people really did eat these things.

Nothing went to waste.

That may be one of the biggest differences between this historical recipe and the food served at many modern weddings.

Why was it called Bride's Pie?

The name itself tells us that the dish was associated with the bride and the wedding celebration. Bride's Pie belongs to a much older tradition of giving certain foods special meaning at weddings.

Food wasn't simply something placed on the table because people were hungry. Wedding foods could symbolize:

  • fertility
  • prosperity
  • abundance
  • good fortune
  • the joining of two families

Bride's Pie also had an interesting connection with wedding guests. In some traditions, something unusual was hidden inside the pie, and finding it could supposedly bring good fortune to the unmarried person who discovered it.

That idea may sound familiar.

It is another example of how wedding customs often overlap, change, and borrow from one another over time.

From Bride's Pie to Wedding Cake

So where does Bride's Pie fit into the story of wedding cake?

It isn't quite accurate to say that Bride's Pie simply became the modern wedding cake. Wedding cake has a much more complicated history, with traditions involving ancient Roman wedding bread, later English wedding customs, bride cakes, fruitcake, icing, and eventually the elaborate tiered cakes we recognize today.

But Bride's Pie is part of the larger story of special foods served at weddings.

And that's what makes it interesting.

Wedding celebrations have always involved food. What changed was the food itself.

Ancient Romans had wedding bread. Later generations had wedding cakes and bride cakes. Bride's Pie brought a savory dish into the wedding celebration.

Eventually, sweet, elaborately decorated cakes took center stage.

What Did Bride's Pie Taste Like?

That's a question I can't answer from experience, and I'm not sure I want to volunteer for the experiment!

The combination of oysters, bacon, dates, chestnuts, organ meats, spices, lemon, and wine would certainly produce a very different flavor from today's wedding cake.

If you're planning a historical wedding reenactment, however, a modernized savory pie inspired by the old recipes could make an interesting addition to the menu.

You don't necessarily have to recreate the original recipe ingredient for ingredient. A savory meat pie using period-inspired ingredients could capture the spirit of the tradition without requiring your wedding guests to eat rooster anatomy.

And your guests might thank you for that.

The History of Wedding Food

One reason I enjoy researching wedding traditions is that they rarely follow a simple path. We tend to think of traditions as though they've always existed in their present form. Wedding cake is a perfect example.

Today, we picture a beautiful tiered cake covered in icing and decorations. We cut it, take photographs with it, and sometimes save the top tier for a future anniversary. But that cake is the result of centuries of changing customs.

Bride's Pie is one of the more unusual stops along that journey. It reminds us that wedding food hasn't always been sweet, white, or covered in flowers.

Sometimes it was a very elaborate savory pie filled with ingredients that would make a modern wedding caterer raise an eyebrow. And honestly, that's one of the things I love about history.

You never quite know what you're going to find when you look beneath the traditions we take for granted.


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