6 Scottish wedding traditions you can make your own

Thinking of planning a Scottish themed wedding? Whether you want to celebrate your Scottish heritage or just want to add a Celtic flair to your wedding, you will find a wealth of Scottish wedding traditions available . Before I get into some of these customs, I have to mention that one tradition historically practiced was a “trial wedding.” This was still a ceremony and was formalized by handfasting, but this trial marriage lasted for one year and a day. When it “expired” the couple chose to get married or to separate. Children produced during this time were considered legitimate, and really it was considered a way to determine the bride’s fertility. Today, many Scottish wedding traditions have evolved to suit modern times. Here are a 6 wedding traditions you can adapt for your own wedding.

The Caim is a prayer of protection for the marriage.

Caim: Prayer of Protection

The caim is a prayer said while the bride and groom stand in a sacred circle at the altar. The purpose of this prayer is protection of the bride and groom at the time of marriage and the circle is thought to symbolize unity, community and a connection to the greater universe. Historically this circle was drawn by a sword or lance around the couple. 

Today, the tradition of cutting the circle has vanished, but the prayer remains and is said as the couple draws a circle around themselves. These caims follow a certain rhyme and meter which gives  the ceremony a more revered feeling. Today’s brides and grooms can create their own prayer just like they write their own wedding vows to make their wedding ceremony more meaningful or can choose a historic celtic prayer if they want to hold on to that historic element.

Oathing stone

The ancient Celtic tradition of the oathing stone is tied to the origins of the wedding vow. Back then the Celts were tribal people and closely connected to the spirit of the place where they lived. As a result, important vows were made in very precise places and were considered sacred because they believed certain ancestral spirits were associated with these places. This connection was a critical element for gaining a blessing on any new venture including marriage. 

The oathing stone was held by the officiant and represented a way to link the couple with the land as well as those ancestral blessings like a bridge as they said their vows. Today, couples decorate small stones by etching or painting the bride’s and groom’s names or initials or the date of their wedding on the stone. It is thought to root the couple’s future in the wisdom of the past at the beginning of their life together. Then the stone is thrown into a lake or the sea, or can be reverentially placed in a place special to the couple.

Scottish handfasting tartan

Handfasting is the Scottish tradition with a couple of meanings. It was used as a way to show an intent to marry (engagement) and part of a betrothal ceremony. But in this case, if the couple had sex following a handfasting ceremony, they were considered married rather than just engaged. As part of the actual wedding ceremony, this tradition of handfasting can also be traced back to the 1500s as part of the Celtic tradition. During this ceremony the guests circled around the bride and groom as they made their vows to one another, and as they did, their hands were gently fastened together using a cord or strip of cloth (preferably a tartan).

3 other Scottish wedding traditions

Standard Kells Pewter Quaich

• The bride and groom exchange their vows outside the church doors before going inside for the rest of the ceremony.
• Drinking from the quaich, a two-handled ‘loving cup.’ The couple also drinks from this cup when taking communion together and then they drink from it together during the first toast as a married couple. It represents the couple’s united lives.
• Throwing of wedding confetti. Today Scottish wedding confetti can consist of paper colored like Tartan plaid and includes shapes like shamrocks.

For those who want to learn even more about Scottish wedding customs, the groom can wear a kilt, you can pin tartans after vows are exchanged, and include bagpipe music. If you have more ideas, I’d love to hear them.

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Scottish engagement ring and other traditions

In earlier posts I’ve talked about how the wedding engagement ring tradition can be traced back to ancient Romans and even further back to the book of Genesis when rings where given as pledges. Today, we are only going to look back as far as the Middle Ages, when the Scots started their own wedding engagement tradition of giving a fede ring. But unlike today’s practices, these silver Scottish engagement rings weren’t given to the bride-to-be, but instead was handed over to church (kirk)  when making arrangements for proclaiming the marriage. Along with the fede ring, the Scots practiced two other engagement traditions: the giving of the Luckenbooth Brooch and Claddagh Ring.

Fede Ring

Fede ring

The design of the silver fede ring included two hands which met in a clasp representing friendship, love or betrothal. This design is also historically thought to date back to ancient Rome or before.

Luckenbooth brooch

The Lukenbooth brooch tradition dates back to the early 1700s when silver and gold smiths sold merchandise in an open market along the Royal Mile, next to to Edinburgh Castle. At this time, open-market stalls were swapped for booths that could be locked after closing, and this is where the name luckenbooth (locked booth) comes from.

The jewelers crafted these brooches with designs including intertwining hearts beneath a crown which symbolized Mary Queen of Scots. Even the hearts often were shaped to create an “M” after the fashion of the Queen’s monogram.

Luckenbooth Brooch

Another wedding tradition included having these brooches engraved with a pledge of love. After the wedding, the bride often tucked the brooch away as a special keepsake. When the union was blessed with a first child, the brooch was pinned to the christening gown or blanket. Then it was tucked away until that firstborn’s own betrothal.

For those in America, an interesting twist on this tradition took place in the 18^th century when the Iroquois Indians of North America traded for Luckenbooth brooches!

Today the giving of a Luckenbooth brooch as a token of betrothal is still considered one of the most romantic symbols of love.

Claddagh ring

The Claddagh ring was also worn as an engagement ring. In fact, depending on how you wear the Claddagh ring it has different meanings including friendship, betrothal, or marriage. This ring design includes hands meeting (friendship) clasping a heart (love), topped with a crown which represents loyalty. Today this is probably the most popular traditional betrothal gifts exchanged as a token of unfailing love.

Claddagh Ring

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Wedding flowers and the superstitions tied to them

Wedding traditions are often rooted in superstition. Believe it or not, this even includes wedding flowers. In fact, wedding superstitions linked to flowers can be traced back to ancient Rome, ancient Greece, Asia, and elsewhere around the globe. While some ancient cultures didn’t actually carry or use flowers exactly like we do today, the plants they chose to incorporate in the wedding can be traced back as the precursor of the wedding flowers we have today. Of course, we don’t believe the superstitions they held back then, but isn’t it fun to know where some wedding traditions got started and why?

Wedding superstitions associated with flowers

Among wedding superstitions these are associated with flowers.

 

• Ancient Rome: Brides carried bouquets of herbs to symbolize fertility and faithfulness, and to ward off evil spirits.
• Ancient Greece: Ivy was thought to keep witches away and prevent drunkenness. When carried by brides, it represented everlasting love.
• Medieval Europe: Fragrant herbs like garlic were used in bridal bouquets to protect against disease and bad luck. 
• Tudor England: Brides not only carried flowers but ate them! Marigolds dipped in rosewater were considered aphrodisiacs—meant to add a spark to the wedding night. 
• Victorian Era: Tossing the wedding bouquet began as a charm to bring friends good luck and keep evil spirits away. Over time, it evolved into today’s playful tradition: whoever catches the bouquet is thought to be the next to marry.

 

• Middle East: Bridal bouquets often include artemisia, a bitter herb symbolizing the idea that marriages must endure both bitter and sweet times.
• Thailand: In traditional Thai weddings, the mothers of the bride and groom drape floral garlands over the couple’s shoulders as a blessing for good fortune. This is still a living tradition practiced today, symbolizing blessings and good fortune.
• India (South Asia): At the close of the wedding ceremony, the groom’s brother sprinkles flower petals over the newlyweds to protect them from evil spirits.
• China: Peonies, known as the “king of flowers,” are symbols of romance, honor, prosperity, and a blissful marriage.
• South Asia: Marigolds, with their vibrant golden color, are considered sacred and are used to attract blessings and ward off negativity.
• Asia (broader): The lotus is a powerful wedding symbol representing purity, spiritual awakening, and new beginnings. 

                             A white rose represents purity.

The Meaning of Wedding Flowers

In the Victorian era, the “language of flowers” became wildly popular. People believed that every bloom carried a specific meaning, and bouquets were carefully composed to convey messages without words. This was when the rose became firmly established as the symbol of true love. Over time, color added depth to the message:

• A white rose came to represent purity.

• A pink rose signified joy.

Other traditions embraced floral symbolism too. In Greek Orthodox weddings, crowns of orange blossoms traditionally worn by the bride and groom were thought to symbolize purity and virginity.

Even today, many wedding flowers are chosen not just for beauty, but for what they represent:

• Daffodils symbolize new beginnings.

• Hydrangeas suggest reflection and consideration.

• Irises represent perseverance.

When you think about it, a wedding bouquet is more than decoration—it’s a meaningful historical heirloom. With a little creativity, your floral arrangements can tell a story all their own on your wedding day, carrying centuries of superstition, symbolism, and sentiment into your celebration.

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Irish Lace Wedding Traditions: History, Meaning, and Beautiful Ways to Include It in Your Ceremony

(Updated May 2026) 

Many Irish wedding traditions are rooted in nature, shaped by folklore, or steeped in old‑world superstition. Passed down through generations, these customs continue to be cherished by Irish couples around the world—and by anyone who loves weaving ancient symbolism into a modern celebration.

One tradition, however, stands apart. It isn’t tied to nature or superstition but to compassion, resilience, and the quiet strength of Irish women during one of the darkest chapters in Ireland’s history. That tradition is Irish lace.

The History of Irish Lace

Irish lace is more than a decorative art—it’s a symbol of survival, creativity, and community. Its story begins in the early 1800s, when many families lived in tiny thatched cottages on crofts and struggled to afford even basic necessities.

In 1829, a lace‑making school opened in Limerick, introducing needlework skills to local women. But when the potato blight devastated Ireland between 1845 and 1851, the need for income became desperate. Ursuline nuns, familiar with Venetian lace techniques, began teaching women how to crochet delicate motifs that would later be known as Irish lace.

The lace these women created was sold to more affluent families, and the earnings helped feed and support the poor. Many families developed their own motifs and patterns, passing them from mother to daughter. Some designs were guarded so closely that they disappeared entirely when families emigrated or died out.

Today, Irish lace is treasured not only for its beauty but for the legacy of strength and generosity it represents. Including it in a wedding is a meaningful way to honor Irish heritage, or simply to celebrate a tradition born from love and resilience.

Four Beautiful Ways to Include Irish Lace in Your Wedding

1. Irish Lace Wedding Handkerchief

Carrying a wedding handkerchief is a tradition that some historians trace back to 1000 B.C. An Irish lace handkerchief adds a layer of heritage and artistry to this custom. Brides often keep their handkerchief as a cherished heirloom, and many families pass them down from mother to daughter. They also make thoughtful gifts for bridesmaids and parents.

2. Irish Wedding Garter

Irish wedding garters often feature lace, shamrocks, Claddagh charms, or Celtic knotwork. Whether worn for tradition, symbolism, or simply as a pretty detail, an Irish lace garter is a subtle way to honor Irish roots.

Irish Wedding Garter with Claddaugh Charm

3. Irish Lace Wedding Dress

Irish lace remains a beloved choice for wedding gowns. You’ll find it in vintage‑inspired silhouettes, modern mermaid gowns, romantic maxi dresses, and even short bridal styles. Its intricate patterns add texture and timeless elegance to any bridal look.

4. Irish Lace Streamers on the Bridal Bouquet

Traditionally, Irish brides carried bouquets of wildflowers or wore wildflower wreaths instead of veils. Adding Irish lace streamers to your bouquet blends old‑world charm with modern floral design. It’s a simple, beautiful way to incorporate the tradition without altering your dress or accessories.

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Wedding invitations: Evolution from town crier to paperless

Have you ever wondered how wedding invitations were handled before the invention of the printing press? In Medieval England, the town crier or bellman was in charge of passing on all the latest news, proclamations and other important information. This included wedding invitations! In this day when we need a count of how many people are attending, can you imagine wedding invitations delivered to the general public like this? In those days, everyone who heard the announcement was basically invited.

Oral wedding invitations

Wedding invitations delivered by the town crier were accompanied by the ringing of a loud hand bell in order to draw attention to the message being delivered. The message started with “Oyez” (pronounced oh yay) which is derived from the French ouïr (to listen). It basically means, “here this.” He announced the names of the bride and groom along with the time and date of the wedding. As long as you were not among those shunned by the family, if you heard the announcement, you were invited to the wedding. However, such announcements were reserved for important weddings among nobility and aristocracy, not everyday commoners. Common people had to just trust word of mouth to get the invitations out.

Hand penned wedding invitations

During the Middle Ages, some of these well-to-do couples commissioned monks to hand pen their invitations using their expertise in calligraphy. Such invitations were elaborate and hand delivered, and those who received them were most likely able to read.

Evolution of the wedding invitations in the newspaper

Once Gutenberg invented the printing press in 1447, the town crier’s responsibilities gradually changed with the advent of newspapers, and it became commonplace to place wedding invitations in the local newspaper. In the mid-1600s, engraved wedding invitations came on the scene. These were similar to wedding invitations today. By the Victorian-age, these wedding invitations were commonly used in America, but because of the unreliability of the postal system of the day they were often hand delivered until the early 1900s. Even then, a double envelope system was used to ensure the invitation would arrive without being spoiled reroute. Today the double envelope system is still commonly used but now it's more a matter of tradition. 

Commercially printed wedding invitations came into vogue in the 1950s making wedding invitations more affordable for everyone. Today, the use of letterpress is popular, as well as digital printing, with several outlets making wedding invitations convenient to personalize and buy online.

Affordable wedding invitations online

The following online venues offer a vast selection of affordable wedding invitations:

• Vistaprint wedding invitations
• Shutterfly wedding invitations
• Along with these, paperless wedding invitations are also growing more popular.

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