Thinking of planning a Scottish themed wedding? Whether you want to celebrate your Scottish heritage or just want to add a Celtic flair to your wedding, you will find a wealth of Scottish wedding traditions available . Before
I get into some of these customs, I have to mention that one tradition
historically practiced was a “trial wedding.” This was still a ceremony and was formalized
by handfasting, but this trial marriage lasted for one year and a day. When it “expired”
the couple chose to get married or to separate. Children produced during this
time were considered legitimate, and really it was considered a way to
determine the bride’s fertility. Today, many Scottish wedding traditions have
evolved to suit modern times. Here are a 6 wedding traditions you can adapt for
your own wedding.
Caim:
Prayer of Protection
The caim is a prayer said while the bride and groom
stand in a sacred circle at the altar.
The purpose of this prayer is protection of the bride and groom at the time of
marriage and the circle is thought to symbolize unity, community and a
connection to the greater universe. Historically this circle was drawn by a
sword or lance around the couple.
Today, the tradition of cutting the circle
has vanished, but the prayer remains and is said as the couple draws a circle
around themselves. These caims follow a certain rhyme and meter which gives the
ceremony a more revered feeling. Today’s brides and grooms can create their own
prayer just like they write their own wedding vows to make their wedding
ceremony more meaningful or can choose a historic celtic prayer if they want to hold on to that historic element.
Oathing stone
The ancient Celtic tradition of the oathing stone is
tied to the origins of the wedding vow. Back then the Celts were tribal people
and closely connected to the spirit of the place where they lived. As a result,
important vows were made in very precise places and were considered sacred because they
believed certain ancestral spirits were associated with these places. This
connection was a critical element for gaining a blessing on any new venture
including marriage.
The oathing stone was held by the officiant and represented
a way to link the couple with the land as well as those ancestral blessings like a
bridge as they said their vows. Today, couples decorate small stones by etching
or painting the bride’s and groom’s names or initials or the date of their
wedding on the stone. It is thought to root the couple’s future in the wisdom
of the past at the beginning of their life together. Then the stone is thrown
into a lake or the sea, or can be reverentially placed in a place special to
the couple.
Scottish handfasting tartan
Handfasting is the Scottish tradition with a couple of meanings. It was used as a
way to show an intent to marry (engagement) and part of a betrothal ceremony. But in this case, if the couple had sex following a handfasting ceremony, they were considered
married rather than just engaged. As part of the actual wedding ceremony, this tradition of handfasting can also be traced
back to the 1500s as part of the Celtic tradition. During this ceremony the guests
circled around the bride and groom as they made their vows to one another, and as
they did, their hands were gently fastened together using a cord or strip of
cloth (preferably a tartan).
3 other
Scottish wedding traditions
- The bride and groom exchange their vows outside the
church doors before going inside for the rest of the ceremony.
- Drinking from the quaich, a two-handled ‘loving cup.’ The couple also drinks from this cup when taking communion
together and then they drink from it together during the first toast as a
married couple. It represents the couple’s united lives.
- Throwing of wedding confetti. Today Scottish wedding
confetti can consist of paper colored like Tartan plaid and includes shapes
like shamrocks.
For those who want to learn even more about Scottish
wedding customs, the groom can wear a kilt, you can pin tartans after vows are
exchanged, and include bagpipe music. If you have more ideas, I’d love to hear
them.
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