5 strange marriage customs around the world

When you think about it, many wedding customs can seem unusual compared to regular everyday life. I mean when else do you think about wearing something old, new, borrowed or blue? But as out of the ordinary as customs like that can seem, there are some really strange marriage customs around the world that top that by far. Here are five you won't believe.

5 strange marriage customs from around the world

1. India: Marrying a Tree

Can you imagine a bride marrying a tree before she is allowed to marry her groom? Believe it or not, this is a real custom in India. In some Hindu traditions, a woman whose horoscope shows Mangal Dosha (a Mars affliction that is believed to cause misfortune in marriage) must first symbolically wed a tree, often a banana tree, peepal tree, or even an idol of Lord Vishnu.

 

This ritual, known as Kumbh Vivah, is thought to neutralize the harmful effects of the planetary alignment. By marrying the tree, the “curse” is transferred to it, protecting the future husband from potential misfortune, such as an early death. After the ceremony, the tree is usually cut down or immersed in a river, symbolically ending that union and freeing the Indian bride to marry her human partner.

For those who believe, this practice is a way to ensure harmony, longevity, and eternal joy in the real marriage that follows.

 

Blackening the bride.

2. Scotland: Blackening of the bride (and groom)

If you thought marrying a tree was unusual, wait until you hear about the Scottish wedding tradition known as “Blackening of the Bride.” This messy pre-wedding ritual is all about preparing the couple for the challenges of married life. Traditionally, it involved the bride alone, but nowadays grooms often get “blackened” too.

Here’s how it works: Friends and relatives ambush the couple and cover them in the nastiest concoctions you can imagine—spoiled milk, rotting food, flour, soot, sticky treacle, even dead fish. Imagine cleaning out the worst-smelling science experiments from your refrigerator and dumping them in a bucket, then hurling it over the bride and groom while parading them through town for everyone to see.

And it doesn’t end there. After the slimy spectacle, the bride (and sometimes the groom) is taken out for a night of drinking and then tied to a tree. Why? The tradition symbolizes resilience. If the bride can endure humiliation, discomfort, and chaos, she’ll be ready to weather whatever storms marriage brings.

It’s messy, it’s smelly, and it’s unforgettable—but in Scotland, it’s all in the name of good luck. 

 

3. Germany: Piles of broken porcelain

In Germany, marriage celebrations can get a little… destructive. Before the wedding day, friends and family gather for a ritual called Polterabend—which literally means “noisy evening.” The centerpiece of the event? Guests smash porcelain dishes, cups, and even toilets into a giant pile right in front of the couple’s home. (Glass is avoided, since it’s thought to bring bad luck.)

 

Piles of broken porcelain dishes to clean up.

 

The crashing sound is believed to scare away evil spirits, but there’s another symbolic layer: once the fun is over, the bride and groom must clean up the mess together. The lesson is clear, if they can cooperate to tackle this mountain of broken pottery, they’ll be able to face life’s challenges hand in hand.

It’s loud, it’s messy, and it’s surprisingly heartwarming, a reminder that teamwork is at the heart of a successful marriage.

4. France: Chocolate, champagne and the toilet

France may be famous for romance, fine wine, and gourmet food, but one of its wedding traditions is far from elegant. After the reception, when the bride and groom should be celebrating in style, friends surprise them with a strange challenge: eating chocolate and drinking champagne… out of a toilet bowl (or more often these days, a clean chamber pot).

Originally, the concoction wasn’t so sweet. In older versions of the ritual, guests would scrape leftovers (or worse) into the pot, forcing the couple to consume the unappetizing mix. Thankfully, modern versions have evolved into something far more palatable: melted chocolate, bananas, and bubbly champagne.

The idea behind the custom is symbolic. Sharing this unusual “meal” is believed to give the newlyweds strength for their wedding night and beyond. It’s quirky, messy, and a little gross, but for the French, it’s all about starting married life with laughter, resilience, and a story no one will forget.

5. Indonesia: Honeymoon - 3 days housebound with no toilet

If you think newlyweds deserve a relaxing honeymoon, the Tidong people of Borneo, Indonesia, would disagree. Their marriage custom requires the bride and groom to stay inside their home for three full days and nights—and here’s the kicker: they’re not allowed to use the toilet.

During this time, the couple is given only small amounts of food and drink, and relatives keep watch to make sure the rules are followed. The idea may sound extreme (and definitely uncomfortable), but the purpose is deeply symbolic. It’s believed that enduring this shared trial will bless the couple with a happy marriage and healthy children.

What better test of love than surviving three days together under those conditions? If you can make it through that, you can probably make it through anything!

The thing that’s interesting with these strange marriage customs around the world are the superstitions attached to them. But really, the reasons many of our wedding traditions exist are superstitions. After all, wearing a wedding veil originated to hide the bride from evil spirits.

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10 wedding traditions and superstitions for good luck

Threads of superstitions entwine many wedding traditions in America. Think about it. Why else do we say, the groom shouldn't see the bride before the wedding, or why wear something old, something new, something borrowed,and something blue? Many wedding traditions are tied to good luck or avoiding bad luck. For instance, rain on your wedding day is thought to bring good luck.

Tony Curtis carries new bride Janet Leigh over the threshhold, 4 June 1951.

Why carry the bride over threshold?

Carrying the bride over the threshold is thought to bring luck to the newlywed's union, but it didn't start out that way. This tradition started in ancient Rome where the bride had to show she didn't want to leave her father's home, and so she was dragged across the threshold into the groom's home. This practice combined with the ancient belief that evil spirits hovered at the threshold to the new home waiting to curse the couple, started the practice of carrying the bride over the threshold. Why? So the spirits couldn't enter the bride body through the soles of her feet. It was a way to turn a "curse" into a "blessing" or bad luck into good. (Though it does leave one wondering whey they didn't worry about the spirits entering the groom).

Spider on your wedding dress? Don't freak out. It's good luck.

9 more wedding traditions for luck

1. Other superstitions thought to bring luck included the bride placing a cube of sugar in her glove on her wedding day to sweeten the union. (I wonder if eating sugar on your wedding day could work? I mean just eat some wedding cake, right?)
2. And if you see a spider on your wedding dress, celebrate! That's supposed to mean good luck! (Uh, yeah, good luck with that. If I see a spider it's never good. I'd rather go with the superstition that a lady bug brings good luck).
3. According to English tradition and lore, when it comes to luck the best day of the week to get married is Wednesday and the worst day is Saturday. (Maybe that explains the high divorce rate these days! Saturday is now the most popular day to tie the knot).
4. And on the gross side of traditions, the ancient Romans studied pig entrails to decide the luckiest time to marry.
   
5. Throwing oats, grains, dried corn, (for Czech newlyweds it was peas), and eventually why we throw rice or birdseed, was meant to shower the couple with good fortune, prosperity, and fertility.
6. Egyptian brides are pinched for good luck.
7. Middle Eastern brides paint their hands and feet with henna (a beautiful tradition) thought to protect from the evil eye.
8. A Swedish wedding tradition includes coins in shoes. The bride slips a silver coin from her father in one shoe and a gold coin from her mother in the other. This is to ensure she will never have to do without.
9. In Holland, a pine tree is planted outside the home of the newly married couple as a symbol of luck and fertility.

Many of these wedding traditions are now practiced in America but most people have no clue why. Now you do. Do you have a wedding tradition you'd like to know more about? If so let me know.

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