Why Do Grooms Wear Boutonnieres? The History and Meaning Behind the Tradition

When you picture a groom on his wedding day, one classic detail often stands out. A small, elegant flower pinned to his lapel. This floral decoration, known as a boutonniere, might seem like just a pretty accessory, but it carries a rich history and meaningful symbolism that dates back centuries.

 

What Is a Boutonniere?

A boutonniere (pronounced boo-ton-yehr) is a small floral arrangement, typically worn on the left lapel of a suit or tuxedo. Traditionally, it’s worn by the groom, his groomsmen, and sometimes close family members or honored guests. Though modest in size, the boutonniere holds a big place in wedding traditions worldwide.

 

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Ancient Origins: Flowers as Symbols of Protection and Love

Roots of the boutonniere tradition stretch as far back as ancient civilizations. Warriors and soldiers often adorned themselves with herbs, flowers, or sprigs believed to ward off evil spirits and protect them in battle. These floral tokens were seen as charms of good luck and courage.

 

Medieval Romance: Wearing the Lady’s Colors

By medieval times, the boutonniere took on a more romantic meaning. Knights would wear their beloved’s chosen flower or colors pinned to their armor or clothing before heading into battle. This act was a public display of devotion and a way to keep their love close, even amid conflict.

From Battlefields to Ballrooms: The Wedding Tradition Emerges

As warfare gave way to courtship and celebration, the boutonniere evolved into a decorative accessory for formal occasions, especially weddings. By the 19th and 20th centuries, wearing a boutonniere became a refined way for the groom to signify his special role and connection to the bride.

 

Modern Boutonnieres: Style, Symbolism, and Unity

Today, boutonnieres are carefully selected to complement the wedding’s color palette and floral arrangements. Often, the groom’s boutonniere echoes elements of the bride’s bouquet, symbolizing their unity and shared journey. Beyond tradition, it’s also a stylish detail that adds a touch of elegance and personality to the groom’s attire.

 

The next time you see a groom sporting a boutonniere, you’ll know there’s more to that little flower than meets the eye. It’s a living tradition—rooted in history, romance, and symbolism—that continues to bloom beautifully on weddings everywhere.

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How the Bridal Bouquet Became a Timeless Symbol of Love: Unveiling Its History and Significance

The bridal bouquet is a beautiful and meaningful tradition in weddings, but its origins and symbolism have evolved over centuries. Here's a deeper look into its history and significance.

Unveiling bridal bouquet history and significance

Ancient Origins: The tradition of carrying flowers by brides dates back to ancient civilizations. In ancient Rome, brides carried herbs and spices to ward off evil spirits and ensure fertility. Similarly, in ancient Greece, brides carried bouquets of herbs and flowers to symbolize new beginnings, fidelity, and hope.

 

Medieval Europe: During the Middle Ages, the bridal bouquet took on religious symbolism. Brides carried strong-smelling herbs and spices, such as garlic and dill, to ward off evil spirits. Flowers such as daisies, symbolizing innocence, and marigolds, symbolizing protection and prosperity, were also popular choices.

Victorian Era: The Victorian era saw the bridal bouquet evolve into a more elaborate and symbolic accessory. Queen Victoria's wedding in 1840 popularized the use of flowers in weddings, particularly her bouquet of snowdrops, which symbolized hope and purity. The Victorian language of flowers, or floriography, further heightened the symbolism of bouquets, with each flower carrying its own meaning.

L'Adieu. Wedding of Crown Prince Frederick William and Princess Victoria. Date: 1858. Culture: British. Accession number: B2011.12.6.

Symbolism of the bridal bouquet

The bridal bouquet is rich in symbolism, with each flower carrying its own significance. Some common floral symbolism in bridal bouquets includes:

• Roses: Symbolize love, passion, and beauty.
• Lily of the Valley: Signify purity and happiness.
• Peonies: Represent prosperity, good fortune, and a happy marriage.
• Calla Lilies: Symbolize magnificence and beauty.

Additionally, the colors and arrangement of flowers can convey specific meanings. For example, white flowers symbolize purity and innocence, while red flowers symbolize love and passion.

Modern Significance: Today, the bridal bouquet remains an essential element of weddings, albeit with more personalization and creativity. Brides often choose flowers based on their personal preferences, wedding theme, or cultural significance. Some couples incorporate heirloom jewelry or meaningful keepsakes into their bouquets, adding an extra layer of sentimentality.

The bridal bouquet has evolved from its ancient roots and superstitions as a protective charm to become a symbol of love, purity, and new beginnings. Its rich history and symbolism continue to add beauty and meaning to weddings across cultures and generations.

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Tradition of the Ornate Norse Wedding Crown

The history of the ornate Norse wedding crown is intertwined with the cultural and historical developments of the Nordic region, particularly during the medieval and post-medieval periods. While precise documentation of its origin is limited, its evolution can be traced through archaeological findings, historical records, and cultural practices. 

Origins of the Norse wedding crown

The origins of the Nordic wedding crown likely stem from medieval European traditions, including Christian customs and influences from neighboring regions. During the Middle Ages, crowns were symbols of nobility, authority, and religious significance. As Christianity spread throughout Scandinavia, elements of Christian wedding customs, such as crowns and blessings, likely influenced the development of the Nordic wedding crown tradition. (Some regions suggest it is fashioned after the Virgin Mary’s crown). 

Purpose of the wedding crown

As societies became more structured and wealthier, families invested in heirloom-quality items for special occasions, including weddings. In the Viking culture, the bridal crown was most often a family heirloom crafted of silver. Silver and gold were the two precious metals commonly used for such purposes, and ornate crowns became symbolic elements of bridal attire, signifying:

• purity
• lineage
• familial wealth

It was probably the most significant item in her trousseau.

Like many wedding traditions, the origins of the Norse Wedding Crown are tied to the superstition. It was believed that the crown deflected evil spirits in the same way the wedding veil custom was thought to hide the bride from evil spirits. 

For the Norwegian tradition, the bride wore her ornate silver and gold crown decorated with small dangling charms. As the bride moved the tinkling of the charms was thought to chase away the evil spirits, much the same way the clanking of tin cans and old shoes tied to the back of the newlywed's getaway carriage was thought to help ward away evil spirits.

 

 

The tradition continues to evolve

Despite societal and cultural changes over the centuries, the tradition of the Nordic wedding crown persisted in Nordic communities. Families continued to pass down heirloom crowns from generation to generation, and the symbolism associated with the crown remained significant in wedding ceremonies. Over time, the design and ornamentation of the crowns may have evolved to reflect changing tastes and fashion trends, but the core symbolism and cultural significance endured.

The Nordic wedding crown remains a cherished symbol of tradition, heritage, and marital union in Scandinavia to this day. While the exact origins are not definitively documented, its history can be traced through the intersection of Medieval European traditions, Viking-era practices, Christian influences, and evolving cultural norms within Nordic societies.

 

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7 traditional wedding garter fun facts

The garter toss is a popular Western wedding tradition. This ritual can be traced back to the Medieval ages, but before we delve into the fun facts of wedding garter history let me explain how this tradition works today. 

 

How the garter toss works today

The garter toss is considered a lighthearted tradition that takes place during the wedding reception. Most often, the bride is seated on a chair while all the guests circle around. The bachelors within the group congregate in one area. The groom then removes the garter. How this is done varies these days, but most often the husband removes the garter from the bride’s leg (usually worn just above the knee), with his hands. Once he has it in his hands, the groom turns his back and tosses it over his head to the group of bachelors. Think of it as a counterpart to the bouquet toss to the single women. Some people even have the woman who catches the bouquet dance the next dance with the bachelor who catches the garter. This leads to the question, where did this tradition come from?

7 traditional wedding garter fun facts

1. The garter toss started in England and France where guests tried to take a piece of the bride's dress for good luck.
2. Zealous guests often followed the couple from the reception to their marital bed, ripping at their clothes for a tatter of good luck.
3. To appease the eager guests and give the bride a break from the nerve-racking experience of people tearing bits form her wedding dress practice grooms started to toss out a piece of the bride's wedding attire. This was the inspiration behind the garter toss and bouquet toss. It started with the toss of the garters that held up the bride’s stockings up.
4. The garter toss was used as a distraction so the newlyweds could make a quick escape from the wedding reception as everyone scrambled to get their hands on the good luck charm.
5. Today the wedding garter symbolizes good luck to the bachelors in attendance.
6. Superstition attached to the garter is that whoever catches it will be next to get married.
7. Today the garter toss is a way to gather all of the unmarried men to the dance floor.

 Garter toss not for everyone

While this is a popular wedding tradition that’s meant to be lighthearted in today’s Western culture, it is not for everyone. Some consider the long-standing tradition to be raunchy or at least awkward. Like any tradition, if you feel this way, feel free to skip it entirely.

6 wedding customs that involve throwing things

Many wedding traditions we practice today are linked with superstitions from long ago. Some of these old customs have fallen out of favor, some have evolved, and some are quite a bit like they were when they were first established. I’ve written about wedding traditions for years now and have to say I'm surprised at how many customs involved throwing things at the bride and or groom. Before you read any further, ask yourself, can you name six wedding customs that involve throwing things? 

Throwing shoes started back in the Tudor period in England

1. Throwing bread at the bride

The throwing of bread was practiced in 16^thcentury, but before we get to that let’s take a look of how we got there with a peek back at the Middle Ages. At that time, brides carried or wore wheat ears as a symbol of fertility, and young girls customarily gathered outside the church to throw grains of wheat over the bride meant to shower the couple with good fortune, prosperity, and fertility. 

Later, bread was made from wheat flour and water and was thrown at the bride during the ceremony to encourage fertility. (In Russia today, wedding bread called karavay is still a center piece of weddings and is thought to represent fertility.) In 16th-century England, the bride’s bread evolved into small rectangular cakes made of eggs, milk, sugar, currants, and spices. Makes me think of something like banana bread with blueberries or something. Anyhow, each guest had at least one of these little cakes which were thrown at the bride as she crossed the threshold. The main theme that followed the various customs involving the throwing of bread are linked to fertility.

 

Today many couples throw biodegradable confetti.

2. Throwing rice (and other grains)

Throwing rice at newlyweds is an ancient custom but the throwing of wheat actually predates throwing rice. In rural parishes of England, when wheat was thrown over the bridal couple the people would say, "Bread for life, pudding forever." For my readers who don’t know about “pudding” in English terms, it is their word for dessert. Only prosperous people had the means to enjoy desserts, so it was a way of wishing the newlyweds might always be prosperous. 

The practice of throwing rice, or oats, or other grains (or peas for Czech newlyweds) all held the same symbolism. It represented showering the couple with good fortune, prosperity and fertility. Instead of thinking of it as “rice” or “oats” the people back then looked at it as life-giving seed and it was a way to wish newly married couples good luck. 

It was considered good luck to hit the departing carriage with your shoe.

 

 

 

3. Throwing shoes at the bride and broom

I only recently came upon this tradition when writing about the origins of wedding receptions. Throwing shoes at the newlywed couple started back in the Tudor period in England (1500s). As the bride and groom drove away in their carriage, wedding guests threw their shoes at them because they believed it was good luck if you hit the vehicle. Needless to say, as a wedding custom, throwing shoes is no longer practiced. The custom changed to tying old shoes to the back of the carriage, which then evolved here in the States to using aluminum cans.

4. Throwing the bouquet

The custom of the bride carrying a flower bouquet is an interesting one with ancient origins that can be traced back to ancient Rome. Back then brides carried or wore flower garlands because they believed flowers signified new beginnings, fidelity and hope of fertility. By the Middle Ages, instead of flowers, women carried aromatic bunches of garlic, herbs and spices to ward off evil spirits, bad luck, and sickness. Today, the bouquet represents happiness and satisfaction in marriage. So how did throwing the bouquet come about?

Tossing the bridal bouquet to guests started back in medieval times. At that time, it was considered good luck for guests to get a piece of the wedding dress, so guests were eager to go after the bride trying to rip off bits of her dress. Brides started tossing the bouquet as a distraction so they could get away with the dress in one piece. Over time, catching the bouquet became a talisman for good luck to the one who caught it. 

5. Tossing the garter

The custom of throwing the garter started in England and France and came about for the same reason as throwing of the bouquet. In an effort to distract guests who hoped to tear off a piece of the bride’s dress, the groom tossed a garter.

6. Throwing money at the bride and groom

In Greece, throwing money around the bride and groom is one aspect of a dance called the "kalamatiano" or here in the States, the money dance. In Nigeria, this tradition is called the "money spray" In Poland, the money is pinned on the bride during the reception as she dances. The idea behind this tradition is to help the couple out financially as they start their life together. In general, money is either thrown, pinned or handed to the couple while dancing.

Vintage wedding ideas for the modern bride

• While no one wants a loaf of bread tossed at them, wedding bread is rich with symbolism. For a vintage touch, have a special loaf of bride’s bread made for the couple. Just for fun, you might want to include this old custom: Someone holds the loaf and the bride and groom take a bite. Whoever takes the biggest bite will be the head of the household.
• In the Ukraine, after the bride and groom eat the wedding bread, people throw candies and money at them. This tradition represents wishes for financial blessings and abundance.

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