About Wedding Traditions & Meanings

Thursday, March 15, 2018

When did men start wearing wedding rings?



When did men start wearing wedding rings? When you look at the history of wedding rings, it is speculated that wedding rings in general date all the way back to ancient Egypt. At that time, couples exchanged rings as a symbol of their love, but the ring exchange wasn’t part of any particular ceremony. Later, in ancient Rome, the tradition of metal wedding bands started with brides being presented with two rings -- an iron ring to be worn around the house and a gold ring which was worn out in public. But what about male wedding rings? 

Male wedding rings: The history

In today’s western culture, the man’s wedding ring is as important as the woman’s ring as part of the marriage ceremony and the couple's married life together. 

Wedding rings are considered symbols on more than one level. First, it is a symbol of the bride and groom’s relationship as they join to become husband and wife. They also symbolize unending love and just wearing the ring represents the fact that the two people are married and no longer "available." But the tradition of men wearing wedding rings is actually a fairly new addition to the wedding tradition, because while women have worn wedding rings since ancient times, the practice of men wearing wedding rings only dates back to the 20th century and it wasn’t for the reasons we think of for wearing wedding rings today. 

The practice actually started during World Wars I and II, when soldiers wore wedding rings as a reminder of their wives back home. It wasn’t until after the Korean War that wedding rings for men took on the sentimental value we associate with them today. At that point in time, matching wedding bands grew in popularity and rings designed specifically with men in mind became available.

Silicone wedding rings make a safe alternative for everyday wear

Things to consider when choosing male wedding rings today

While male wedding rings have become a traditional part of today’s culture, when choosing a wedding ring for a man a lot of different elements of life should be taken into consideration. For instance:
  • The width. Is it comfortable on your finger? Remember you'll be wearing this ring the rest of your life.
  • Metal choice. Do you need a more durable metal or will gold or silver suit your lifestyle?
  • Do you want the ring engraved?
  • What kind of finish do you want? And what about other detailing?
  • What does the man do for a living? Many jobs don’t allow men to wear a ring for safety reasons. However, today, silicone wedding rings are crafted to be attractive, comfortable, heat resistant and non-conductive and make a “safe” alternative for everyday wear and are allowed at many jobs that don't permit metal rings to be worn.

So really the same guidelines apply to men and women when choosing wedding rings. You want to take lifestyle as well as preferences into account. Traditionally, men wore plain metal bands because most men worked with their hands, but ring styles have changed along with the times. Men who don’t have to worry about safety or dirt collecting in intricate designs can choose a ring based on how it looks and feels with choices in metals now ranging beyond gold and silver to include more durable choices like stainless steel, tungsten and titanium.


Meaning of male wedding rings today
Of course the exact meaning attributed to a wedding ring will vary depending on the culture. For example, many cultures wear the wedding ring on the right hand to represent the wedding vows taken because the right hand is the hand used when taking an oath. For others it is worn on the left hand based on the ancient belief that the vein of love runs through the ring finger of the left hand. A secondary reason for the left hand is that usually the right hand is more dominant and so the ring would go through less wear and tear being worn on the left hand. But beyond all this, the meaning of the male wedding ring is the same as the ring worn by the bride. It’s a symbol of eternal love shared by the couple.


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Wednesday, March 14, 2018

The history of wedding rings leads to Rome



While the origin of wedding rings isn’t one hundred percent certain, based on archeological evidence dating back 3000 years, historians have pointed back to ancient Egypt as the first culture to exchange rings to commemorate marriage. The rings were given by spouses to each other as a symbol of the love between them, but it wasn’t a part of any ceremony. It was a private gift shared between them. However, to find the origins of the tradition of metal wedding rings exchanged today, we look back to the ancient Romans. At that time and in that culture, marriages had to conform to Roman law and were categorized by social class. This included three different categories of weddings: Usus, Coemptio, and Confarreatio



Ancient wedding rings didn’t always represent love
 
In plain English, the Usus was marriage for the lowest class. Today, we might compare it to what we call common-law marriage. The next "step up" was the Coemptio which involved purchasing the bride. Historians don’t totally agree on whether this was an actual purchase or a symbolic sale, but that’s what the ring in these marriages represented. Then there was the Confarreatio – the only “legal” marriage and it was reserved for the elite upper class. This marriage was presided over, and the groom presented his bride with a ring. Most of these rings were made of iron or gold which is what led to the tradition of metal wedding rings. Unlike the Egyptian rings which were symbols of love, historians believe the Romans looked at the metal wedding band as a symbol of possession. Thus, the wife belonged to the husband once that ring went on her finger.



Ancient Romans owned two wedding rings
 
As I mentioned, the ancient Roman wedding rings were made of iron or gold. What I didn’t mention is that the wealthy women in ancient Rome actually were presented with two wedding rings, an iron one and a gold one. The first was to be worn at home and thought to represent strength and permanence. The gold ring was worn in public to impress people. Laws actually prohibited those from the lower classes from wearing gold rings, but these laws were somewhat difficult to enforce, because historical evidence shows that even slaves plated their iron rings with gold if they could.

 
Motif of the clasped hands, signified love, betrothal, and marriage.
 
Laws of ancient Roman marriage
 
Back in ancient Rome, couples had to have connubium which denoted the legal right to get married. Needless to say this was a requirement for marriage and it wasn’t a permission granted to people who were already married, eunuchs, and people who shared certain blood relationships. Parental consent also played a role with the minimum age for marriage set at age 12 for girls and age 14 for boys.

Saturday, March 3, 2018

Indian Weddings Are a Family Affair: Ceremony, Customs & Family Traditions

(Updated March, 2026)

India is a land of many subcultures, and with them come variations in wedding traditions. However, one thing remains constant: Indian weddings are not just a union of the bride and groom—they are a joining of families. In Indian culture, family and community play a vital role in life decisions, and they participate actively in wedding customs and celebrations.

We’ve already explored the Mehndi Ceremony, which takes place the night before the wedding and celebrates the bride’s side of the family. Today, let’s look at the wedding ceremony itself.

Indian Wedding customs


Baraat – The Groom’s Procession

The ceremony begins with the baraat, the groom’s procession. The groom is accompanied by family and friends, singing and dancing to music often provided by a professional dhol player (a large bass drum). The bride’s family meets the procession at the entrance, symbolizing their acceptance of the bride as part of their family.


Milni – Meeting of the Families

The milni is the formal greeting between the two families. The bride’s mother welcomes the groom, and other family members hug and exchange garlands. After this, the bride’s family leads the groom to the mandap, a canopied altar representing the home the couple will build together.




Ganesh Puja – Prayer to Lord Ganesh

The ceremony begins with the Ganesh Puja, a prayer to Lord Ganesh, the remover of obstacles. The priest directs the bride’s and groom’s parents in offering flowers and sweets to seek blessings for the marriage.

Kanya Aagaman – Arrival of the Bride

The bride arrives at the mandap accompanied by her maternal uncle, aunt, sisters, cousins, or close friends, depending on regional customs. At the altar, the bride and groom exchange floral garlands in the Jai Mala ceremony, symbolizing mutual acceptance

Kanyadaan and Hasta Melap – Giving Away the Bride

Next comes Kanyadaan, the giving away of the bride. The father pours sacred water into his daughter’s hand and places it in the groom’s hand, representing the transfer of his most precious gift.

During Hasta Melap, the groom’s sister or cousin ties the ends of the groom’s scarf to the bride's wedding sari using betelnuts, copper coins, and rice. This symbolic knot represents the eternal bond of marriage.



Vivah Havan – The Sacred Fire

The priest lights the sacred fire, or Agni, symbolizing the divine presence as a witness to the marriage. The couple walks around the fire seven times (Mangal Phere) while reflecting on the four aspirations of life:

  1. Dharma – duty to each other, family, and God

  2. Artha – prosperity

  3. Karma – energy and passion

  4. Moksha – salvation

During the first three rounds, the bride leads the groom, representing divine energy, and the groom leads the last four rounds, symbolizing balance and completeness. In some regions, the couple races to sit down after completing the rounds—a playful tradition signifying who will rule the household.

Once seated, the bride moves to the groom’s left, close to his heart. The groom places a mangalsutra (sacred black-and-gold necklace) around her neck and applies sindoor (red vermillion) at the crown of her head. These are symbols of a married woman.

The couple then exchanges rings, feeds one another sweets, and receives blessings whispered by family members. The ceremony concludes with flowers and rice showered over the couple.

 

Bidaai – Bride’s Farewell

The bidaai is the bride’s farewell to her family. The father gives his prized possession to the groom’s father, symbolizing the transfer of responsibility and love. The bride leaves her family home joyfully, beginning her new life at the groom’s house.


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