About Wedding Traditions & Meanings

Thursday, January 18, 2018

Bride’s Pie: The Savory Wedding Dish That Came Before the Modern Wedding Cake

(Updated October 2026)

I've written about the evolution of the wedding cake tradition and how it reaches all the way back to ancient Rome, when a loaf of hearty bread was broken over the bride's head.

But the story of wedding cake isn't a straight line from Roman bread to the tiered cakes we know today.

Along the way, weddings featured some rather interesting dishes—including Bride's Pie.

If you're imagining a sweet dessert covered in frosting, think again.

Bride's Pie was a savory wedding dish, and its history gives us another glimpse into how wedding food and wedding traditions have changed over the centuries.


Bride's Pie


17th Century Wedding Cake

Bride's Pie was a savory pie associated with weddings and wedding celebrations. Unlike today's wedding cake, it wasn't necessarily a dessert. Historical recipes could contain a rather remarkable assortment of meats, seafood, fruits, nuts, spices, and other ingredients.

And before we look at one of those recipes, there's something important to keep in mind. People in earlier centuries cooked differently from the way we do today. They used more of the animal, preserved foods in different ways, and combined ingredients that might seem unusual to modern diners.

In other words, don't read an old Bride's Pie recipe expecting to find something resembling today's chicken pot pie.

You may be in for a surprise. 


Medieval Kitchen
Medieval Kitchen

One of the oldest surviving printed recipes I found for a Bride Pye appears in The Accomplisht Cook, a cookbook first published in 1660 by Robert May.

That puts this particular recipe in the 17th century, during the Historical Age, which falls within the Early Modern period in European history.

The cookbook's language is also very different from modern English, and some of the ingredients and culinary terms require a little explanation.

Here's the recipe:

To make an extraordinary Pie, or a Bride Pye of several Compounds, being several distinct Pies on one bottom. Provide cock-stones and combs, or lamb-stones, and sweet-breads of veal, a little set in hot water and cut to pieces; also two or three ox-pallats blanch’t and slic’t, a pint of oysters, slic’t dates, a handful of pine kernels, a little quantity of broom buds, pickles, some fine interlarded bacon slic’t; nine or ten chestnuts rosted and blanch season them with salt, nutmeg, and some large mace, and close it up with some butter. For the caudle, beat up some butter, with three yolks of eggs, some white or claret wine, the juyce of a lemon or two; cut up the lid, and pour on the lear, shaking it well together; then lay on the meat, slic’t lemon, and pickled barberries, and cover it again, let these ingredients be put in the moddle or scollops of the Pye.

Now let's translate some of that into modern terms.


Medieval wedding cake was known as Bride's Pie
 

Bride’s Pie Recipe 1685

To make an extraordinary Pie, or a Bride Pye of several Compounds, being several distinct Pies on one bottom. Provide cock-stones and combs, or lamb-stones, and sweet-breads of veal, a little set in hot water and cut to pieces; also two or three ox-pallats blanch’t and slic’t, a pint of oysters, slic’t dates, a handful of pine kernels, a little quantity of broom buds, pickles, some fine interlarded bacon slic’t; nine or ten chestnuts rosted and blanch season them with salt, nutmeg, and some large mace, and close it up with some butter. For the caudle, beat up some butter, with three yolks of eggs, some white or claret wine, the juyce of a lemon or two; cut up the lid, and pour on the lear, shaking it well together; then lay on the meat, slic’t lemon, and pickled barberries, and cover it again, let these ingredients be put in the moddle or scollops of the Pye.

 

What's in a Bride's Pie?

The ingredients in this particular recipe certainly aren't what most of us would expect to find in a wedding dessert.

It calls for:

  • Veal sweetbreads
  • Cock's stones and combs
  • Ox palate
  • Oysters
  • Dates
  • Pine kernels
  • Broom buds
  • Pickles
  • Bacon
  • Chestnuts
  • Eggs
  • Wine
  • Lemon
  • Barberries
  • Butter
  • Nutmeg and mace

Some of those terms need explaining.

Sweetbreads aren't bread at all. The term refers to certain organ meats, traditionally the thymus or pancreas of an animal.

Cock's stones refers to the testicles of a rooster.

Cock's combs are the fleshy crest on top of a rooster's head.

Ox palate is the roof of the animal's mouth.

And yes, people really did eat these things.

Nothing went to waste.

That may be one of the biggest differences between this historical recipe and the food served at many modern weddings.

Why was it called Bride's Pie?

The name itself tells us that the dish was associated with the bride and the wedding celebration. Bride's Pie belongs to a much older tradition of giving certain foods special meaning at weddings.

Food wasn't simply something placed on the table because people were hungry. Wedding foods could symbolize:

  • fertility
  • prosperity
  • abundance
  • good fortune
  • the joining of two families

Bride's Pie also had an interesting connection with wedding guests. In some traditions, something unusual was hidden inside the pie, and finding it could supposedly bring good fortune to the unmarried person who discovered it.

That idea may sound familiar.

It is another example of how wedding customs often overlap, change, and borrow from one another over time.

From Bride's Pie to Wedding Cake

So where does Bride's Pie fit into the story of wedding cake?

It isn't quite accurate to say that Bride's Pie simply became the modern wedding cake. Wedding cake has a much more complicated history, with traditions involving ancient Roman wedding bread, later English wedding customs, bride cakes, fruitcake, icing, and eventually the elaborate tiered cakes we recognize today.

But Bride's Pie is part of the larger story of special foods served at weddings.

And that's what makes it interesting.

Wedding celebrations have always involved food. What changed was the food itself.

Ancient Romans had wedding bread. Later generations had wedding cakes and bride cakes. Bride's Pie brought a savory dish into the wedding celebration.

Eventually, sweet, elaborately decorated cakes took center stage.

What Did Bride's Pie Taste Like?

That's a question I can't answer from experience, and I'm not sure I want to volunteer for the experiment!

The combination of oysters, bacon, dates, chestnuts, organ meats, spices, lemon, and wine would certainly produce a very different flavor from today's wedding cake.

If you're planning a historical wedding reenactment, however, a modernized savory pie inspired by the old recipes could make an interesting addition to the menu.

You don't necessarily have to recreate the original recipe ingredient for ingredient. A savory meat pie using period-inspired ingredients could capture the spirit of the tradition without requiring your wedding guests to eat rooster anatomy.

And your guests might thank you for that.

The History of Wedding Food

One reason I enjoy researching wedding traditions is that they rarely follow a simple path. We tend to think of traditions as though they've always existed in their present form. Wedding cake is a perfect example.

Today, we picture a beautiful tiered cake covered in icing and decorations. We cut it, take photographs with it, and sometimes save the top tier for a future anniversary. But that cake is the result of centuries of changing customs.

Bride's Pie is one of the more unusual stops along that journey. It reminds us that wedding food hasn't always been sweet, white, or covered in flowers.

Sometimes it was a very elaborate savory pie filled with ingredients that would make a modern wedding caterer raise an eyebrow. And honestly, that's one of the things I love about history.

You never quite know what you're going to find when you look beneath the traditions we take for granted.


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Tuesday, January 16, 2018

Why Vintage Engagement Rings Still Captivate

If you’re in love with the romanticism of a bygone era or just looking for a ring that’s distinctive and a great value, vintage engagement rings offer that and more. Today, vintage-inspired rings are the trend among celebrities including actresses Alexis Bledel and Scarlett Johansson, but if you take the time to search for an authentic vintage ring you love, you can usually find a better deal because previously-owned rings often sell for less, making them a smart choice that still features the quality and gemstones for which you’re looking.



Searching for the right vintage engagement ring style takes time, but it is time well spent. Consider it a treasure hunt. Then when you discover the right one it will be all the more precious and the process of looking for it will become part of your story.

Know what you’re looking for

It helps to narrow your search. For instance if you know you want a rose gold ring, then you may not want to visit an estate sale selling a vintage cushion cut platinum ring. If you know you want a pearl ring, then a sapphire or diamond ring won’t meet your needs. However, I suggest you keep a somewhat open mind, since authentic vintage rings are one-of-a-kind, and the beauty of these rare finds may just change your mind.

 

(Updated December 2025)
 
If you’re drawn to the romance of a bygone era, or simply want a ring that feels distinctive and offers exceptional value, vintage engagement rings continue to shine. While vintage-inspired designs regularly appear on red carpets and social media, authentic vintage and antique rings hold a special allure that can’t be replicated. Each piece carries its own history, craftsmanship, and character, making it as meaningful as it is beautiful.
 
Antique Engagement Ring

The Joy of the Search

Searching for the right vintage engagement ring takes time, but it’s time well spent. Think of it as a treasure hunt. When you finally discover the one, it feels all the more precious—and the journey itself becomes part of your love story.
 

Know What You’re Looking For (But Stay Open)

Having a general idea of what you want can help narrow your search. If you’re set on rose gold, you may skip pieces crafted in platinum. If pearls speak to you, a sapphire or diamond may not initially feel right.

That said, keep an open mind. Authentic vintage rings often surprise people. A cut, gemstone, or setting you hadn’t considered may end up capturing your heart. Flexibility can lead to an even more meaningful find.

Vintage rings are one-of-a-kind by nature, so patience is key. The reward is a ring that no one else has, with a story that began long before you and will continue with you.
 

Where to Find Authentic Vintage Engagement Rings


If you’re searching for a truly one-of-a-kind antique or vintage engagement ring, there are several excellent places to look:

Family heirlooms: Start by asking relatives if there’s a ring with history in your family.

Estate sales and antique shops: These can be gold mines for unique, older pieces.

Pawn shops: Often overlooked, but sometimes home to beautiful vintage jewelry.

Online marketplaces and specialty retailers: Platforms like Etsy and well-known antique jewelry dealers offer a wide selection, often with detailed provenance.

Before making a final purchase, it’s essential to have the ring professionally appraised. A proper appraisal should outline the ring’s materials, gemstones, condition, and value, completed on official appraisal forms. Look for an appraiser with both gemological training and formal appraisal education, especially someone experienced with antique and vintage jewelry.

Choosing a vintage engagement ring is about more than style—it’s about history, craftsmanship, sustainability, and individuality. In a world of mass-produced designs, a vintage ring stands apart, telling a story that’s uniquely yours. 
 

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Monday, January 15, 2018

Rose gold engagement ring making comeback

Back at the turn of the 19th century, rose gold engagement rings were a popular choice among couples ready to tie the knot. Today that popularity is experiencing a resurgence for a number of reasons.



What is rose bold?
Rose gold is a blend of yellow gold and copper. The more copper in the blend, the rosier the hue. In the same regard, the higher karat the lighter the shade will be because it contains more pure gold. In the end, how deep the blush comes down to ratios and personal preference.

In some cases, 18k rose gold rings will contain silver or palladium along with the gold and copper, while lesser karat rings might contain some silver or zinc. For those who have allergies to consider it is important to talk to your jeweler regarding the actual makeup of the ring you are considering.
 


Advantages of rose gold engagement rings
One reason people fancy rose gold is its romantic vintage look, but beyond that, this precious gold offers practical advantages. For instance, it makes an attractive choice for people with nickel allergies which can be experienced with white gold and is more durable than yellow gold.

Aside from these physical advantages rose gold is also an affordable choice that compliments all skin tones.

Rose gold engagement rings provide a classy-looking ring that’s versatile and yet distinct. Today, you can find them available in vintage or contemporary designs. 
 
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Monday, January 8, 2018

How the wedding shower originated

Like many wedding customs and traditions, the history of the wedding shower is steeped in etiquette, but the actual origin is unclear. The practice is said to be tied to dowry practices and origins in the Netherlands. The story surrounds a high-society Dutch woman who didn’t want to marry the rich farmer her father had chosen for her, but rather wanted to marry a poor miller instead. Her father rejected the idea and in an effort to force his daughter to marry the man he chose said he wouldn’t provide a dowry unless she married the farmer. The story goes on to tell how the villagers joined together to “shower” the woman with household items and other small gifts so she could marry the man of her choice. This particular account has a happy ending saying these actions touched the heart of the father and changed his mind. He decided to allow her to marry the man she loved.

Second possible origin of the wedding shower

According to a second account, the history of wedding showers in the United States isn’t quite so romantic. In this case, the practice of holding a wedding shower grew popular in the States in the late 1800s when women of high society celebrated bridal showers for the gossip, food, the opportunity to give gifts and to talk about the bride-to-be’s new upcoming role. During these shower parties, small gifts were placed inside a paper parasol in order to “shower” them over the bride-to-be.
 

Third possible origin of the wedding shower

A third story tells a more practical story about a young woman who couldn’t afford to buy her friend a wedding gift. She invited others to a party and told all to bring a small gift. In this way, she did what she could to give her bride-to-be friend a gift. And lastly, it is suggested the bridal shower originated in the United Sates as a more recent invention created to sell more gifts rather than the result of any tradition.

No matter the origin, today, the wedding shower has evolved into anything from a more modest affair to an extravagant themed party. In any case, the bride is “showered” with gifts. And while the practice of the bridal shower has evolved over time to include both the bride and the groom, much of the original wedding shower etiquette still surrounds this special occasion. Like many wedding traditions, learning the history behind the bridal shower can be used to create your own unique, modern way to celebrate this special occasion. 

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