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Friday, July 28, 2023

Bride’s Pye a strange wedding tradition

Looking back at 16th century Yorkshire, pies were the common tradition. Rather than cakes, the Bride’s Pye (Bride’s Pie) was considered an essential dish for marriage celebrations. Like many wedding traditions its importance was tied to superstitions and thought to be necessary for the couple’s future happiness. Wait until you see what was expected of the bride in this tradition!

 
bride's pye

What bride’s pye symbolized

The bride and groom were presented with Bride’s Pye when they arrived at their new home. While this sounds like a nice way to welcome the couple to their new life together, in practice, the pie wasn’t only for eating. The bride only ate one piece and the rest was smashed over her head, and she wore the smashed pie for the rest of the day! Why? It symbolized her devotion to her husband.

Once the groom smashed the pie on his bride’s head, he threw the plate over his head and watched it break into pieces. The more pieces, the more years of happiness and fortune they could look forward to. Etiquette also required the bridegroom to wait on his bride. 

And so, the bride’s pye was considered essential to the couple’s future happiness. This reminds me of the wedding tradition of the barley loaf which came before the bride’s pye. The loaf was broken over the bride’s head for good luck, and the people gathered crumbs for their own good fortune. In the case of the Bride’s Pye, it was considered rude if any attending the celebration didn’t take part.


How big was a bride’s pye?

A lot of work went into the making a bride’s pye. It was always round, with a thick decorated crust. Most often it was a mincemeat or mutton pie made with sweetbreads but I’ve also read a recipe that included a fat laying hen, full of eggs, probably intended as an emblem of fertility To get an idea of the size of this dish, consider this 1808 recipe from The experienced English Housekeeper by Elizabeth Raffaid.

  • Boil two calf's feet, pick the meat from the bones and chop it very fine.
  • Shred small one pound of beef suet and a pound of apples
  • Wash and pick one pound of currants very small, dry them before the fire
  • Stone and chop a quarter of a pound of jar raisins
  • A quarter of an ounce of cinnamon
  • A quarter of an ounce of mace or nutmeg
  • Two ounces of candied citron
  • Two ounces of candied lemon cut thin
  • A glass of brandy and one of Champagne

Put them in a China dish with a rich puff paste over it, roll another lid, and cut it in leaves, flowers, figures, and put a glass ring in it.

 

raised pies

 

Ring inside the pie

One last thing worth mentioning about the Bride’s Pye tradition is that it had a glass ring cooked into it. The lady who found the ring in her serving of pie was thought to be the next to marry.

The bride’s pye tradition carried into the seventeenth century but then evolved into a bride cake, the precursor to the modern wedding cake. And while the smashing of the cake on the bride's head seems a strange tradition, when I think of how couples often smash wedding cake in each others' faces I guess our customs can be just as strange. I wonder if that's where smashing the cake originated.


 

Monday, September 14, 2015

From Bread to Tiered Cakes: The Fascinating History of Wedding Cakes

(Updated December 2025)

Wedding cakes are a centerpiece of modern weddings, but their history stretches back centuries. From humble loaves of bread to elaborate tiered confections, the evolution of wedding cakes is steeped in tradition, superstition, and symbolism. 


Karavay (bride bread) is still a Russian tradition.

Roman and Medieval Beginnings: Bread for Good Luck

Before sweet cakes became the norm, weddings were celebrated with unsweetened bread. In Roman times, bread was broken over the bride’s head during the ceremony to encourage fertility. Guests would scramble for crumbs, hoping for their own share of good luck.

In medieval Europe, this bread evolved into the Bride’s Pie, a mincemeat or mutton pie sometimes containing a hidden glass ring. The lucky finder was believed to be the next to marry. These early wedding foods emphasized luck, fertility, and social customs rather than sweetness.

The First Sweet Cakes: 17th–18th Century

By the 17th century, sweetened cakes appeared. Known as Bride’s Cakes, these were often simple flat plum cakes. Guests rarely ate them at the reception; instead, portions were saved for future celebrations, such as the bride’s anniversary.

During this era, two cakes were common: the bride’s cake (served to bridesmaids) and the groom’s cake (often rich fruitcake eaten by men). Customs like sleeping with cake under a pillow to dream of one’s future spouse were widespread.

First Wedding Cakes
The first sweet wedding cake was a flat one-tier plum cake.

Victorian Innovations: White Cakes and Tiered Designs

The 19th century brought dramatic changes. Queen Victoria popularized white icing when she married Prince Albert in 1840, establishing a symbol of purity that remains today. Wedding cakes began to take on tiered designs, sometimes with multiple layers for guests to admire.

Victorian traditions also included:

  • Groom’s Cake: Rich, dark fruitcake often boxed for single guests.

  • Bride’s Cake: Simple pound cake with white icing for the bridesmaids.

  • Cake Pull: Ribbons with charms placed under the cake for guests to pull, predicting fortunes

Bride Cake
It's a great cake. A bride-cake. Mine!”

In Victorian times, the wedding cake as we know it today became popular. It was at this time that the first white wedding cakes covered in white icing appeared. By this time, white had become the color that represented purity. However, they weren't called wedding cakes. Instead, they were known as the "bride's cake" with the bride elevated as the focal figure at the wedding. Charles Dickens' used this term in Great Expectations, which was written in 1861, when describing Miss Havisham's wedding cake.


Modern Wedding Cakes

Today, wedding cakes come in endless flavors, colors, and designs. Couples can choose multi-tiered masterpieces, personalized themes, or simple single-tier cakes. While the superstition of lucky crumbs may have faded, cutting the cake together still symbolizes a couple’s unity and shared future.


Wedding Cake

From bread thrown over the bride to elaborate tiered confections, the wedding cake has evolved into both a culinary delight and a cherished tradition. Whether you prefer classic white icing or a modern creation, the history behind the cake adds depth and meaning to every celebration.

 
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