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Showing posts with label wedding tradition. Show all posts
Showing posts with label wedding tradition. Show all posts

Monday, November 15, 2021

Unique wedding kissing traditions and beliefs

Today, the wedding kiss is a traditional custom practiced in the West. Did you ever wonder where it started? I've heard a couple of different stories on this. One is that it goes back to the wedding taking place in the Catholic church. The priest would give the groom a holy "kiss of peace" and tell the groom to pass it on to the bride. This is where we get the commonly used phrase, "You may now kiss the bride." Others trace the custom back to ancient Rome, where the exchange of a kiss signified the completion of a contract. At that time and place, marriage was a negotiated deal. This is said to be where we get the phrase “sealed with a kiss.” Either way, it is a common tradition today, and I thought we’d look at some other unique wedding kissing traditions and beliefs that may surprise you.


The exchange of souls

While the symbolic wedding kiss may take on several different meanings for the people who practice it, this is one I hadn’t heard. Some Christians (not all) believe the wedding kiss symbolizes the exchange of souls between the bride and groom. This belief is based on the Scripture that says “the two shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:5, Mark 10:8, Ephesians 5:31).

 


Swedish tradition “You may all kiss the bride”

The Swedish wedding kissing tradition involves all the guests and the bride and groom. If the groom leaves the room for any reason, say for instance to visit the men’s room, all the men attending the wedding can kiss the bride. The same is true if the bride leaves the room. All the women can step up and kiss the groom. An update on this tradition includes a bell. If the groom rings the bell, it’s an invitation for all the men to come up and kiss the bride. And if the bride rings the bell the invitation is extended to the women to come and kiss the groom. It can cause quite a ruckus when half of the wedding guests stand up and head toward the bride and groom.

Clinking glasses

The last wedding tradition I'll mention in this post deals with one of the most traditional ways guests get the bride and groom to kiss during the reception. The clinking on glasses. When this happened at my wedding, I had no idea that it is actually an ancient tradition. Back then, people thought the practice scared the devil away so the bride and groom were able to kiss while he was absent.

If you know of another wedding kissing custom please let us know in the comments. Thanks for reading.

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Tuesday, June 12, 2018

4 benefits of a prewedding photo shoot


Taking prewedding photos is a growing trend and has become a new wedding tradition in its own right. A prewedding photoshoot, also referred to as an engagement photo shoot, usually takes place three to six months before the wedding. If you’re tossing around the idea and wonder if it is worth the extra cost, look for a photographer that includes it as part of the wedding photographer’s package. Otherwise, an hourly charge usually applies.


4 benefits of a prewedding photo shoot

Before the photoshoot, it best for the couple to sit down with the photographer and share their story. This can include things like how they met, what they like to do, and ideas for locations and outfits that can be worn. The photos can be taken indoors or outdoors. Other than developing ideas for where and when the photo shoot can take place, planning a prewedding photo shoot can actually be beneficial in other ways. Two of these four benefits only apply if you plan to use the same photographer for your wedding.
    1. Taking prewedding photos is an ideal way to capture romantic moments between the couple and is a perfect opportunity to create special memories to be cherished in the future.
    2. Helps develop a good relationship with your wedding photographer. He/she will get to know you and be in touch with how formal or informal you are and what kind of setting(s) or theme(s) are suitable for your tastes.
    3. Also these photo shoots let the bride and groom get familiar with the photographer’s style and help them feel more comfortable working with them.
    4. Prewedding photos can be used for save the date magnets and engagement announcements in the newspaper.

      Creative Elements for Great Engagement Photo Shoot

      Shooting great engagement photos relies on a few things.  
      • First, you want the photos to tell the bride and groom’s story.
      • Secondly, you want photos to capture more than actions. You want them to capture the emotions.
      • Thirdly, choose a backdrop meaningful in some way to the couple. For instance, if the bride and groom enjoy horses, pictures can be taken with an equestrian backdrop and even include a horse or two. Another idea may be something you do together, like baking cookies, or eating a romantic picnic lunch. Or for those planning a vintage themed wedding, a fun photoshoot may include outfits specific to an era and having the photographer include some sepia photos with a backdrop like an old train station or some other historic site. Other ideas include pictures taken in a place special to the couple like where he proposed, where they met, or where they went on their first date.

        Whatever concept you plan to go with for your engagement photoshoot, it’s important that both the bride and groom are excited and embrace the idea, because a grumpy or bored participant will not make for good photos.



        Thursday, January 5, 2017

        Irish wedding bell tradition then and now

        Did you know ringing of wedding bells began with an Irish wedding bell tradition? Yes the ringing of church bells goes back to a tradition when the bells were sounded to ward off evil spirits to make a happy family life for the bride and groom certain, but this wedding tradition goes back even farther -- before church bells -- to the Irish wedding bell.
         
        Irish Wedding Bell



        Irish Wedding Bell Tradition


        The Irish wedding bell tradition began with the Irish family giving the couple a set of bells after they recited their vows. And like the bridal veil tradition, the bells were rung to ward off evil spirits. After they were married, the wedding bells were kept in the couple’s home to remind them of their vows to each other.

        Irish Wedding Bell

        Why it is called the Irish make up bell

        Today, the Irish wedding bell makes a great wedding gift for Irish couples and even those who aren't Irish. The custom is to place the bell in a prominent place in the newlywed’s home, and if/when the couple happens to argue they ring the bell as a reminder of their wedding vows. According to this custom, if the argument can’t be settled affably, the bell is rung louder for these reasons:
        • The sound of the bell can purify and dispel over stimulated emotions. 
        • The result is supposed to be a change in perspective. 
        • The sounding of the bell signals the end of the argument, even if neither the husband or wife capitulated. It offers the equivalent of a “time out” in the “discussion,” and allows time for both people to cool down and think rationally. 
        For this reason, it is also known as the Irish make up bell.

        Waterford Irish Wedding Bell

        Irish wedding bell tradition rejuvenated


        The Irish wedding bell remains an endearing wedding tradition with its origins in an old superstition. Today it can be celebrated in a number of ways. Some couples give their guests small bells at the ceremony to be rung after the vows are completed, or at the reception to be used as kissing bells. Some brides choose to wear a small bracelet or charm with tiny bells. All of these offer ways to include this tradition in your special day, but having an Irish wedding bell on display in your home offers a special keepsake marking the couple’s Irish heritage and the special vows exchanged that day. And even if you're not Irish, having a make up bell handy in your home can help remind you of what's really important when you have a falling out.

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        Tuesday, November 24, 2015

        Jumping the Broom: A Wedding Tradition with Many Roots

        (Updated August, 2026) 

        Jumping the broom is a historic wedding tradition with origins that are still debated today. Some historians associate the custom with Wales and other Celtic traditions, while others trace it to the Romani people living in Wales. Over time, the ritual also became deeply significant in African American history, particularly during the era of slavery in the United States when enslaved couples were often denied the legal right to marry.

        Because the tradition appears in several cultures and has evolved over centuries, no single origin has been universally accepted. Today, jumping the broom is practiced around the world as a meaningful way for couples to symbolize the beginning of married life together.

         
        Jumping the Broom

        Welsh, Celtic, and Romani Traditions

        One of the earliest written references to jumping the broom dates to the 18th century and is connected to the Romani people living in Wales. Others believe the custom originated with the Welsh themselves before spreading among neighboring Celtic communities. Variations of the tradition have been practiced by Welsh families, Celtic revival groups, Druids, and the nomadic Romani.

        In parts of Wales, common-law broomstick weddings were known as priodas coes ysgub, a centuries-old custom that reflected the importance of the broom as a household symbol.




        Jumping the Broom in African American History

        Another well-known tradition associates jumping the broom with African American weddings during slavery. Because enslaved people were generally prohibited from entering into legally recognized marriages, many couples held their own ceremonies before family and friends, sealing their commitment by stepping over a broom together.

        Some historians believe this custom developed independently, while others suggest it was adapted from existing British or Welsh folk traditions. Regardless of its exact origins, jumping the broom became a powerful symbol of commitment, dignity, and family despite overwhelming hardship.

         
        Decorative broom

        The Besom Broom

        The broom traditionally used in these ceremonies was often a besom broom, made by binding twigs or straw around a sturdy wooden handle.

        During the 18th century, besom brooms were commonly placed just inside the doorway of a home with the bristles pointing upward to ward off evil spirits and protect the household. Sometimes they were hung above the doorway with the bristles facing the entrance as a symbol of good fortune. As one of the homemaker's essential tools, the broom naturally became associated with caring for the home and beginning a new household.

        Today, many couples view jumping the broom as representing the start of a shared life together while symbolically sweeping away their former lives, worries, and challenges.



        Jumping the broom tradition

        Four Ways Couples Jump the Broom

        Although the origins of jumping the broom continue to be debated, modern couples have embraced the tradition in many different ways. Wedding planners frequently incorporate it into ceremonies or receptions as a meaningful symbolic ritual.

        Some common variations include:

        • Place the broom at an angle near the rear door of the church. The groom jumps first, followed by the bride.
        • Lay the broom on the floor, allowing the bride and groom to jump over it together while holding hands.
        • Place the broom across the threshold of the couple's new home, with each spouse taking turns stepping or jumping over it.
        • Have the groom carry the bride over the broom as they enter their home together.

        Another historic variation involved the couple jumping over a crossed broom and sword held by the best man and maid of honor. The sword symbolized cutting ties with the past, while the broom represented sweeping away former obligations as the couple crossed into a new stage of life.



          Wedding broomstick

          Tajiri 36" Jump Broom for Wedding


          Jumping the Broom Today

          Many modern couples personalize their ceremony by decorating a broom to match their wedding colors or reflect their family heritage. Others purchase handcrafted ceremonial brooms created specifically for weddings.

          Some couples who wish to avoid the broom because of perceived Wiccan associations choose instead to step over a ceremonial sword or another meaningful object that better reflects their beliefs.

          Whether viewed as a Welsh folk custom, a Celtic tradition, a Romani practice, or an important part of African American wedding history, jumping the broom continues to symbolize leaving the past behind and beginning a new life together. Its enduring appeal lies in its simple yet powerful message: two people crossing a threshold into marriage, united in hope for the future.

          If you enjoy learning about historic wedding customs, you may also enjoy our article on Barefoot Weddings: An Ancient Celtic Wedding Tradition, which explores another fascinating marriage tradition rooted in Celtic history.


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          Wednesday, September 23, 2015

          Why Do Brides Wear a Veil?

          (Updated February 2026)

           

          When you think about all the wedding-related trappings, have you ever wondered why they exist? Take the bridal veil, for example. It’s one of the most iconic accessories in a wedding, but its origins are surprisingly ancient and steeped in superstition.
           
          Princess Beatrice 1885

          The Origins of the Bridal Veil

          The tradition of veiling the bride can be traced back to ancient Rome. Brides were thought to be vulnerable to evil spirits on their wedding day, and the veil acted as a disguise to protect her from jealous or malicious forces.

          Interestingly, the original wedding veil wasn’t white—it was flame red. In Roman belief, the fiery color scared away spirits while also symbolizing passion and vitality. Wearing the veil over the face added an extra layer of protection.
          Original wedding veil was flame red.
           

          Veils in Arranged Marriages

          Beyond superstition, veils also served a practical purpose, particularly in arranged marriages. The groom often did not see his bride before the ceremony. The veil helped hide her appearance, preventing potential embarrassment or disappointment and ensuring the wedding proceeded smoothly.

          Arranged marriage.

          Religious and Cultural Significance

          Over time, the veil took on other meanings:

          • A symbol of humility and respect for God

          • During the Victorian era, a sign of social status, with length and material reflecting wealth and prestige

          • Royal brides, like Princess Diana, famously wore extraordinarily long veils—hers measured 24 feet!

          Modern Bridal Veils

          As beliefs have changed and new meanings were attached to the veil. Today blusher veils are a popular choice among brides, but not all brides cover their face. If they do, some brides:
          • Have the groom lift their veil
          • Have their father lift the veil when he gives the bride away
          • Others go through the entire ceremony with their face covered until the father lifts the veil so the groom can kiss his new wife.

          Today, brides can choose how, or if, they want to wear a veil:

          • Covering the face for a dramatic reveal
          • Wearing it drawn back for subtle elegance
          • Skipping it entirely

          From ancient superstition to Victorian symbolism and modern fashion, the bridal veil has evolved dramatically. Understanding its history adds depth and meaning to a timeless wedding tradition, giving brides the freedom to embrace, or reinterpret it in a way that feels personal.

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