About Wedding Traditions & Meanings

Wednesday, September 30, 2015

History of the wedding toast


Have you ever wondered where the wedding toast comes from or why we even call it a toast in the first place? To answer that, we have to look back at the fascinating history of toasting itself.



wedding toast

Toasting: where did it start?

The custom of raising a glass goes back to ancient times. Many early societies lifted cups of wine as drink offerings to their gods. The Greeks also drank to each other’s health; in fact, in The Odyssey, Ulysses drinks to Achilles’ health.



Some used toasting as an excuse to drink excessive amounts of alcohol.

The Romans took the ritual to a whole new level. Toasting to health became so ingrained in their culture that the Senate once decreed every citizen must drink to the Emperor Augustus at every meal. Later accounts even describe Attila the Hun offering multiple toasts at each course of a feast. Of course, not all toasts were ceremonial; sometimes they were simply an excuse for overindulging. You can read more about this tradition in The Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire, which depicts a feast where Attila the Hun practices at least three toasts for every course.

Why it's called making a toast

The word toast itself appeared in the 16th century. In Shakespeare’s The Merry Wives ofWindsor, Falstaff says, “Go fetch me a quart of sack; put a toast in’t.” And yes, they meant an actual piece of toasted bread!

The bread was placed in wine to absorb some of the acidity, making the drink smoother—and giving new life to stale bread. Over time, the honored guest was often offered the wine-soaked toast itself. Gradually, the practice of drinking with bread in the cup evolved into the symbolic act of “toasting” we know today.
  

Enter the Toastmasters

By the 17th and 18th centuries, toasting had become so popular that “Toastmasters” were appointed at gatherings. Their job? To keep the toasts in order and prevent things from getting out of hand, because some revelers were known to toast nearly everyone in the room just for another round of drinks! Modern etiquette has toned things down, favoring a polite sip instead of a hearty guzzle.

Origins of the wedding toast

The tradition of the wedding toast can be traced back to ancient times, when peace treaties were often sealed with marriage. At the banquet, the bride’s father would drink first from the communal pitcher, proving the wine wasn’t poisoned and symbolizing trust between families. From this gesture grew the custom of raising a glass to honor the couple—a tradition still alive at weddings today.

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Saturday, September 26, 2015

10 wedding traditions and superstitions for good luck


Threads of superstitions entwine many wedding traditions in America. Think about it. Why else do we say, the groom shouldn't see the bride before the wedding, or why wear something old, something new, something borrowed,and something blue? Many wedding traditions are tied to good luck or avoiding bad luck. For instance, rain on your wedding day is thought to bring good luck.

Tony Curtis carries new bride Janet Leigh over the threshhold, 4 June 1951.

Why carry the bride over threshold?


Carrying the bride over the threshold is thought to bring luck to the newlywed's union, but it didn't start out that way. This tradition started in ancient Rome where the bride had to show she didn't want to leave her father's home, and so she was dragged across the threshold into the groom's home. This practice combined with the ancient belief that evil spirits hovered at the threshold to the new home waiting to curse the couple, started the practice of carrying the bride over the threshold. Why? So the spirits couldn't enter the bride body through the soles of her feet. It was a way to turn a "curse" into a "blessing" or bad luck into good. (Though it does leave one wondering whey they didn't worry about the spirits entering the groom).


Spider on your wedding dress? Don't freak out. It's good luck.

9 more wedding traditions for luck

  1. Other superstitions thought to bring luck included the bride placing a cube of sugar in her glove on her wedding day to sweeten the union. (I wonder if eating sugar on your wedding day could work? I mean just eat some wedding cake, right?)
  2. And if you see a spider on your wedding dress, celebrate! That's supposed to mean good luck! (Uh, yeah, good luck with that. If I see a spider it's never good. I'd rather go with the superstition that a lady bug brings good luck).
  3. According to English tradition and lore, when it comes to luck the best day of the week to get married is Wednesday and the worst day is Saturday. (Maybe that explains the high divorce rate these days! Saturday is now the most popular day to tie the knot).
  4. And on the gross side of traditions, the ancient Romans studied pig entrails to decide the luckiest time to marry.
  5. Throwing oats, grains, dried corn, (for Czech newlyweds it was peas), and eventually why we throw rice or birdseed, was meant to shower the couple with good fortune, prosperity, and fertility.
  6. Egyptian brides are pinched for good luck.
  7. Middle Eastern brides paint their hands and feet with henna (a beautiful tradition) thought to protect from the evil eye.
  8. A Swedish wedding tradition includes coins in shoes. The bride slips a silver coin from her father in one shoe and a gold coin from her mother in the other. This is to ensure she will never have to do without.
  9. In Holland, a pine tree is planted outside the home of the newly married couple as a symbol of luck and fertility.
Many of these wedding traditions are now practiced in America but most people have no clue why. Now you do. Do you have a wedding tradition you'd like to know more about? If so let me know.

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Thursday, September 24, 2015

Gimmel rings

The origin of gimmel rings (also known as gimmal or puzzle rings) is not certain, but they began to appear in the 1600s with designs like clasped hands incorporated into interlocking rings. If a third ring was added to the puzzle, it often bore a heart which fit into the clasped hands, very similar to Ireland's claddagh ring. However, gimmel rings were most popular in Germany and England in the sixteenth and seventeenth centuries.



Lore behind gimmel rings
The lore surrounding the ring is that in ancient times, a Turkish nobleman who loved his wife very much wanted to be sure she remained true to him while he was away. He asked the local jeweler to fashion a puzzle ring that would fall apart if it was removed,. It is said he gave her the ring but wouldn't tell her the solution. For this reason, this puzzle ring is also known as a Turkish wedding band even though the Turkish people don't wear puzzle rings as a wedding ring.
 
 

Heart-shaped gemstones were often incorporated in the design and split between two rings so when the two rings were joined they formed a complete heart. Apart, the two rings allowed the bride and groom to each wear a piece of the other's heart, until they were wed. Gemstones were also fashioned in a variety of traditional gemstone cuts, but simpler ring designs were also popular and bore engravings. For instance, Martin Luther wore a gimmel ring in his engagement to Catherine Bora in 1525. It read, "Whom God has joined together, Let no man put asunder."

Gimmel rings created by two interlocking rings provided a ring for bride and one for the groom as a sign that they were betrothed. When they took their vows they fit the two rings together to form a wedding band for the new bride. 
 
 

Some rings were made up of three interlocking rings. In that case, one was worn by the bride, one by the groom, and the third by a witness – what we'd call a best man today. When a witness was involved, it became more than an engagement. It represented a contract. The witness would be present when the wedding vows were exchanged and then all three rings were joined to form a wedding band for the bride to wear.

Over the last few years, the puzzle ring has re-surged in popularity in North America and is even available as four interlocking bands.

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Wednesday, September 23, 2015

Why do brides wear a veil?


When you think about all the wedding related trappings, have you ever asked why? How about the bridal veil? It can be a beautiful accessory but do you know how that tradition got started? It's no different than many practices associated with the marriage ceremony and wedding apparel, it goes back to superstitions.
 
Princess Beatrice 1885

Bridal veil tradition

Bridal veil history can be traced back to Rome. This custom of veiling the bride was originally meant to disguise her from evil spirits as she walked down the aisle. Why would evil spirits even care about the bride? It was thought that they would be jealous of her happiness. So the original purpose of the bridal veil was to protect the bride who was thought to be vulnerable to enchantment.
Original wedding veil was flame red.
 
Another fact about the original wedding veil is that it wasn't white, it was flame red. Even the color was connected to superstition. According to the belief system of that culture, not only did the veil hide the bride from the evil spirits, but the color of the veil was thought to actually scare them off. This explains why traditionally the bride wears her wedding veil over her face.
Arranged marriage.

Lifting the wedding veil

Over time, of course, beliefs changed and new meanings were attached to the veil. Today blusher veils are a popular choice among brides, but not all brides cover their face. If they do, some brides:

    • Have the groom lift their veil
    • Have their father lift the veil when he gives the bride away
    • Others go through the entire ceremony with their face covered until the father lifts the veil so the groom can kiss his new wife.
      In today's wedding tradition, brides can feel free to walk the aisle with their veil drawn back, covering their face, or not to even wear a veil at all.
      Vintage birdcage blusher veil


      Other reasons brides wore a veil

      Some suggest that back in the days of arranged marriages the veil hid the face of the bride from the groom until they were married in case he didn't like how his bride looked. This way everyone would be saved the embarrassment of the groom's disappointment.

      Beyond the evil spirit superstitions, veils were also considered a sign of humility and respect for God. However, during Victorian times, it became just the opposite. It became a status symbol, with the weight, length and quality of the veil a sign of the bride's status. Back then, Royal brides had the longest veils. Even in modern times I remember Princess Diana's wedding veil was 24 feet long.

      Today, brides walk the aisle without worrying about evil spirits, and grooms already know what their brides look like, so for those who choose to wear them, the bridal veil tradition is more of a finishing touch to the bride's ensemble. However, many cultures never embraced wedding veils.

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      Tuesday, September 22, 2015

      Giving away the bride tradition and meaning



      Giving away the bride is a tradition that has evolved over time. For some brides walking down the aisle with their father on their wedding day is a very special moment. One father I know pulled a picture of his daughter from his pocket and said, "This is how I remember you." The daughter's eyes brimmed with tears as she saw herself as a toddler wearing pigtails. The wedding march played, and the two of them walked the aisle together along an emotional thread only the two of them shared. So amid traditions, sometimes we create new traditions.
       


      Giving the bride away tradition

      Giving the bride away is an ancient tradition started back when arranged marriages were the norm. Back then:
      • Daughters in that culture were considered their father's property 
      • The father had the right to "give his daughter" to the groom 
      • A price usually had to be paid to the bride's family before the man could marry their daughter
      • Daughters were not allowed to get married without their father's permission

      Father giving away the bride tradition

      Today, those who choose to "give the bride away" look at it as a practice that symbolizes the transfer of authority from the bride's father to her new husband, and it's not unusual for fathers to make a small speech as they relinquish their place of authority. However, these days, dads aren't the only ones to give the bride away. Now, some brides elect to have both parents, or in some cases their mother, child or some other family member walk them down the aisle.

      Giving away the bride has evolved

      The terminology used in wedding ceremonies today may still sound about the same, but the practice of giving away the bride has evolved to become a part of the wedding ceremony that lets parents of the bride and groom take part in the wedding ceremony in a way that signifies the parents' blessing on the marriage.

      With all that said, the giving away of the bride tradition is not for every bride. Those who feel the practice is archaic, or who don't have a close relationship with their father or parents, shouldn't feel obligated to include the tradition. However, for those who like the idea, but whose father is deceased or unavailable, it is not uncommon to have another close family member walk the bride down the aisle.


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