3 little know facts about ancient Roman weddings

 (Updated December 2025)

I often mention Ancient Rome in relation to the origins of wedding traditions still practiced today in Western cultures. This post takes a look at three practices embedded within those traditions that we no longer include in our own rituals. 

Engagement ring and what it symbolized

Today's tradition of wearing an engagement ring on the fourth finger of the left hand, can be traced back to the Ancient Romans. This finger was believed to have a vein that ran directly to the heart, the Vena Amoris, which means 'vein of love'. Belief in that vein of love brought with it the hope that wearing the ring would encourage love, but legally this piece of wedding jewelry represented that the woman was about to pass from the ownership of her father to her future husband. Therefore, only women wore engagement rings in ancient Rome.

 

Ancient Roman wedding belt and the knot of Hercules

Ancient Roman brides wore a special dress and a veil and even wove flowers in the hair. What made their wedding attire unique is the girdle or belt that they wore. This belt was an essential part of bridal etiquette. By tradition, it was tied by the bride's mother with the knot of Hercules on the morning of her wedding. It represented the bride's purity, and with Hercules being the guardian of married life this strong knot could only be untied by the bride’s new husband on the wedding night. This knot created by two intertwined ropes can be traced back to ancient Egypt where it was used as a healing amulet, but in ancient Greece and ancient Rome where Hercules was known for his strength, it was a strong knot incorporated into a protective girdle worn by brides. Roman lore suggests the knot symbolized the legendary fertility of Hercules and in some way is related to the legendary Girdle of Diana captured from the Amazon Queen Hippolyta.

 

Marriage a negotiated deal

In ancient Rome, the male head of the household (the Paterfamilias) was responsible for finding a good match for all the children in his family. Marriage had to be outside the family. They weren’t allowed to even marry third or fourth cousins. While this sounds like an arranged marriage, one difference is that both the bride and groom had to be consenting adults and they could only be married to one person at a time (there were no divorces). However, what ‘consenting adults’ means today is far different from what it meant back then. The minimum age for females to marry was 12 and boys had to be at least 14. 

 

Once a suitable person was found, both families entered negotiations to decide which family would provide for the couple. Once the agreement was made the woman brought a dowry to her new husband’s family.

Marriage was looked at as a contract and some suggest that the giving of engagement rings in ancient Rome may have been used to signal that a contract had been made between the couple and their families. So while many practice some parts of these traditions it is easy to see why other parts have been left along the path of history.

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The History of the Engagement Ring

(Updated April, 2026)

 

When you think of an engagement ring today, a sparkling diamond likely comes to mind. But the diamond ring, while iconic, is actually a relatively recent tradition rooted in European royalty. The history of the engagement ring stretches much further back—centuries before diamonds became the standard.

 

Some ancient engagements rings were made of bone.

Ancient Beginnings

Engagement rings can be traced all the way back to ancient Egypt. Early rings were made from hemp, leather, bone, or ivory and were worn on the fourth finger of the left hand, a tradition that persists today. Egyptians believed this finger contained the "vena amoris," or vein of love, directly connected to the heart. The circle itself symbolized eternal love.

Some ancient engagement rings were even made of bone, showing that the idea of marking a promise long predated precious metals and gemstones.

Poesy Ring

Greek and Roman Influence

After Alexander the Great conquered Egypt in 332 BC, Greek culture adopted the Egyptian practice of betrothal rings. Most rings were simple iron bands, though wealthier couples used copper, silver, or gold. Engraving inscriptions, poems, or mottos on rings became a tradition during this era, laying the groundwork for the poesy rings of later centuries.

Medieval Diamond Rings

Diamond engagement rings were rare in the Middle Ages. A landmark moment came in 1477 when Archduke Maximilian of Austria gave Mary of Burgundy a diamond ring, cementing diamonds as a symbol of love and commitment among European nobility. Italians of the period also used gemstones as part of the bride price, believing diamonds were forged in the flames of love.

By 1518, even children of royalty received diamond rings as part of arranged marriage agreements—such as Princess Mary, daughter of King Henry VIII, who was promised a diamond ring for her future union with the infant son of King Francis I of France.

Poesy Rings and Gimmel Rings

For most people, expensive gemstones were out of reach. From the 15th to 17th centuries in Eastern Europe, poesy rings—plain gold bands engraved with short inscriptions—served as meaningful betrothal rings.

Meanwhile, in Renaissance Ireland, gimmel rings became popular. These interlocking rings often came in sets: one for the bride, one for the groom, and one held by the best man until the wedding day.

Victorian Era Engagement Ring

The Victorian Era and Colored Gemstones

Engagement rings evolved along with social and legal norms. By the late 19th century, rings often featured colored gemstones:

• Rubies symbolized passionate love.
• Sapphires carried divine favor.
• Emeralds were associated with good fortune and had historical connections to Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of love, and Venus, the Roman goddess of passion.

Engagement rings also became a form of financial security. Dowries faded, and women gained legal rights to pursue claims if engagements were broken. Rings made of rubies, opals, emeralds, and turquoise became more common among non-royalty.

Today diamond and gold engagement rings are traditional.

 

The Modern Diamond Ring  

The modern single solitaire diamond ring as we know it today was popularized in the U.S. by Tiffany & Co. in 1886. Tiffany introduced a setting that showcased the diamond's natural brilliance, replacing the traditional bezel mount. The design quickly became the most requested engagement ring style in America.

In 1947, De Beers launched the famous marketing campaign, “A Diamond is Forever,” cementing diamonds as the ultimate symbol of love and commitment. Today, approximately 80% of American brides wear a diamond engagement ring.

Princess cut single solitaire engagement ring

From Past to Present

Engagement rings have transformed over millennia—from hemp and bone, to gold and gemstones, to the diamond solitaire we know today. While styles and materials have changed, the underlying meaning has remained the same: a visible, lasting symbol of love and commitment.

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